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Keeping in touch with teenage boyfriend

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MollyAA12 Wed 07-Apr-21 17:01:46

Has anyone done this? On Friends Reunited years ago an old boyfriend got in touch. We went out when I was sixteen. We have been in touch by e mail for about ten years. We drifted apart because we went in different directions.

He says he has always loved me and it is all rather poignant. We play old songs on Spotify to remember each other now and then. I picked Don't let the sun Catch you crying by Gerry and the Pacemakers.

He has grandchildren. He plays When youwere sweet Sixteen for me.

Is anyone else doing this?

nipsmum Sat 10-Apr-21 10:49:43

I don't keep in touch with my ex husband and certainly not with old boyfriends.

Doug1 Fri 09-Apr-21 23:22:01

My Husband would go ballistic. He knows my ex boyfriend from his home town though we don't live there anymore. Mind you I would feel the same if he was contacting his ex-girlfriend. We have been together 42 year. Some things are best left in the past

Callistemon Fri 09-Apr-21 22:47:17

M0nica

What is in my past, stays there.

Too right grin

M0nica Fri 09-Apr-21 20:22:37

What is in my past, stays there.

CarrieAnn Fri 09-Apr-21 20:06:16

I never have but I always wished that one of them would

TrendyNannie6 Fri 09-Apr-21 19:55:39

Nope, I wouldn’t remotely be interested in contacting any of my ex boyfriends, they were exes for reasons, never think about them, as happily married, if one of mine contacted me and played sweet sixteen I would find it very cringy but each to their own

Newatthis Fri 09-Apr-21 19:39:27

Facebook, Friends Reunited have cause many marriage problems and divorce. I have kept in touch with an old boyfriend's family who I love dearly. His mum always said that bis subsequent 3 wives all looked like me.

Thirdinline Fri 09-Apr-21 19:28:20

Yes, a couple of my ex boyfriends became good friends and we’ve always stayed in touch, along with a school friend of mine who also went out with one of them. We’ve been to each other’s weddings, commiserated when 2 of those marriages didn’t last and just generally been there for each other. Our husbands/wives/partners know and realise it’s a friendship group rather than a threat to the main relationship in each of our lives. We’re currently meeting up on Zoom, but hoping to get together in person at the end of May, somewhere in UK.

grannylyn65 Fri 09-Apr-21 19:10:25

If you don’t want the answer don’t ask the question

Elvis58 Fri 09-Apr-21 18:51:09

No l would not want too.Whats in the past is precisely that in the past.Happy with my dear other half!

JackyB Fri 09-Apr-21 18:47:45

I have kept in contact with some old classmates, two of whom were boys I went out with at the time. I am convinced that they are all the nicest bunch of people - all grandparents now, of course.

I wasn't quite so emotionally involved as the OP and I live in a different country now, so the main form of contact is Christmas cards.

Sputnik Fri 09-Apr-21 18:18:49

I keep up with 3 old boyfriends, they are now friends of the family, its just nice as we know where we come from and where we've ended up. DH happy with the arrangements and likes them too!

Alioop Fri 09-Apr-21 17:45:31

An old fiancé got in touch with a friend of mine through fbook, I'm not on it, and gave her his phone number to give to me if I wanted to say "hi". That was a couple of months ago and I still haven't bothered. We were engaged 34 years ago, I broke it off cos I felt I was still too young to settle down. We are now both divorced, but I think the past is better staying there.

Longdistancegrnny Fri 09-Apr-21 17:23:34

And now I am just going to look up a couple of other exs out of curiosity!

Longdistancegrnny Fri 09-Apr-21 17:22:46

Retired 65 that is funny - my DH used to live in Harlow and went to live in London (where he met me) but there the similarity ends - intials SP and we live in Hertfordshire!
I have kept in touch with several old school mates male and female and it is lovely to reminisce together from time to time. I did keep in touch with my first love - well he with me really - Valentine cards for years etc. - when we met up again we organised a school reunion together and our other halves (he was on Wife No 3 by then!) got on well - in fact along with some other school friends we all went away to a weekend pop festival together. Sadly he died some years ago now - far too early. I remember feeling when he died that he was someone who did still truly love me in some way. No reflection on DH who does too in all ways - we have been happily together nearly 45 years. By the way DH is in touch with a couple of past girlfriends and one is a friend of mine! There is no harm in enjoying a bit of nostalgia and pointless being jealous of past relationships.

Retired65 Fri 09-Apr-21 16:38:28

I have often thought about putting a message on Gransnet, to find out other ladies experience with an ex-boyfriend. He used to live in Harlow, Essex, moved to London, now lives in his parent's old house in West Sussex, Landscape architect/architect, very much a socialist, initials P.R. Has one older sister, who lives in East Sussex. Yes, I did love him but he never wanted to be tied down and was seeing other women when he was going out with me. Moving to London, he told me, was an opportunity for him to have a new life!

GreyKnitter Fri 09-Apr-21 16:22:38

My husband is still friends with some of his ex girlfriends - but it’s all very open and aboveboard. No sending song stuff to each other - at least as far as I know! Ive met a couple of them but not others as we live a long way away and out paths just haven’t crossed.

Retired65 Fri 09-Apr-21 16:21:34

I also have some questions I would like to ask him.

Nitpick48 Fri 09-Apr-21 16:21:01

A few years after my marriage broke up I thought “I wonder what happened to X?” I went on the internet and found him, and some time later we met up (he was a widower) and a couple of years after that we married! We still can’t believe how lucky we were....

Retired65 Fri 09-Apr-21 16:11:16

I very much regret not staying in touch with my boyfriend of over 16 years. I married, he has never married. He is not on Facebook, although I know where he is living and his email address. I have contacted him to let him know when someone we knew has died but he has never replied. I still care about him, even though it is more than 33 years since I have seen him.

mphammersley Fri 09-Apr-21 15:43:56

Oh Molly, Don’t let the sun catch you crying is one of my all time favourite songs, just love it. No have never been in touch with old boyfriends, enjoy reminiscing together.

Joesoap Fri 09-Apr-21 15:32:10

Not a boy friend but a very good male friend we worked together for years and we still keep in touch or catch up, every now and then, I value our friendship, we dont live in the same country and never meet, but it is nice to have such a good friend.I have a female friend rather the same, we keep in touch after working together for many years,it doesnt matter if it is male or female I think its lovely to have their friendship still.

Harmonypuss Fri 09-Apr-21 15:23:06

I am still in (fairly regular) contact with an ex from about 10yrs ago.
At the time he was separated from his wife and I was 15yrs divorced. But the wife came back on the scene and I took a step back to give them chance to get back together. I loved him but didn't want to be embroiled in anything she could try to blame me for, so I moved on.
They've since divorced and he's with someone else.
We send 'funnies' we've received from others that we think the other would appreciate, ask after each other's health, kids and his granddaughter, etc.
Our current partners are aware of our history and that we do still have this contact and they're fine about it. We've not seen each other for a few years but if one of us were to be in the other's home town (only about 25 miles away) at any time and both had a little free time, we would (post lockdown) meet for a friendly half hour coffee and chat and we would definitely tell our partners that we were doing so. It's only when you try to keep secrets that things can go bad.

HomeAgain123 Fri 09-Apr-21 14:44:40

I just wouldn’t be happy if my husband was reunited with an old girlfriend and sending them songs but if all single enjoy

yellowcanary Fri 09-Apr-21 13:37:39

I am in touch with my ex-fiancee, albeit very sporadically especially at the moment. We reconnected through Friends Reunited as well. He lives a few hundred miles away from me, has loads of women friends on Facebook. He's married, I'm widowed but we are still friends - it wasn't a bad break-up so why not? MollyAA12 - don't worry.