My daughter is an advocate of 'Gentle Parenting', but in her eyes it all hinges on mutual respect and care between parents and child. She is quite firm with DGD, and doesn't let her rule the roost, but on the other hand, she is very patient with the little girl, gives her a lot of freedom, and will listen attentively to her when she is unhappy, even if she's in a strop through being overtired.
I look after DGD two days per week,and I am quite impressed by how good natured and well mannered she is at only 2 1/2. She's a happy and affectionate wee soul, and although she enjoys attention, she can amuse herself quite happily if given appropriate play materials.
That's not to say she's perfect - she's not a good sleeper and takes ages to settle at night. If she overnights with me, she always creeps into my bed, after which I don't hear a squeak, and that's fine by me, but I understand my daughter's wishes that she sleeps in her own bed at home - most of the time anyway!
It's such a common problem that tots won't settle in their own beds. I suppose on an evolutionary scale, we're still cavemen, and it's natural for us all to huddle together through the dark hours of the night. It's not surprising that so many children crave the comfort of another warm pelt beside them, so is it really a problem?
Anyway, gentle parenting or not, I really don't like to see spoiled brats who make their parents' lives a constant misery. I suppose that whatever fashionable name you give it, good parenting is always going to be a mixture of common sense and a great deal of love.