Thanks for further info Forestgirl it does change the picture somewhat and it looks more like your daughter has started to take your help for granted and is becoming demanding and yes maybe now is the time to set some ground rules and be a bit more limiting about your help because at the end of the day it should be a totally two way process She sounds not very maternal if she wants to swan off to parties or is this just a one off and she's very disappointed if she can't go ? I think that's an important point is she a party girl that you have been indulging or is she a hard working girl looking forward to a one off break
I can't speak for others but your original post made me think you were constantly flying off on holidays now you have explained, it is much more realistic to feel empathy for you. If you feel that you are giving and she is taking that's an age old problem
Perhaps like many on here you have given too freely and too often and it's now taken totally as a given that you will do. A b and c without a word I would certainly try and have a talk about your side of the story, if this is hard without it being misconstrued and twisted, maybe a carefully thought out letter Do you have a close friend who would look after the horses whilst you had a weekend at your bolt hole ALONE with no paybacks or do you only enjoy going to the cottage if you have the grandkids with you How old are the grandkids by the way ?
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