Deleted my dating profile

Yep couldn’t have put it better I m content without
Never tried internet dating but the old fashioned type where you meet people one way or another
I ve had a much more peaceful life since going it alone

After 15+ years happily single l was convinced l didn't want a permanent attachment. Then l met my now husband. Entirely amazing. Life winds an interesting path.

Hi Gigi1958, I could write a book about online dating lol. There is so much weirdness going on, men wanting carers, there are liars, cheats, men just wanting sex, men sending dick picks... no idea what that's all about! Young men pretending to be older and older trying to be younger! Men wanting money. I've heard it all.... I treat the whole thing as a game.... i called it 'spot the normal one', have managed a few dates where we just didn't click but have recently met someone and at last think I've met my match! Only taken several years... apparently god loves a trier!!! Best wishes.

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Really, for goodness sake. Maybe they'll take a few notes from my write up!!

Is match nothing more than a chatbot? I met actual men however, I think a chatbot might have been more interesting!

Why would match.com be telling us not to use it ????
What am I missing? 🤔

How can you tell it’s a Chatbot?

Seemed a genuine message from gigi1958 to me.

Me too Juliet27
Just shows how different people read things differently!
...and how we make assumptions based on nothing much.

If you are a bot I do hope you are from the Philippines gigil

BlueBelle

Why would match.com be telling us not to use it ????
What am I missing? 🤔

Sounded genuine to me too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Seems a genuine comment, why put women off joining when women greatly outnumber men on senior dating sites.
You do need to treat it as a game, an adventure until you find a real prospect, it’s not difficult to identify the time wasters.

Blue bell. Irrelevant whether genuine or no I think in many of us is the urge to do what we are told not to ‼️

I've been happily single and independent for the past 15 years and would never change it by choice. It's freedom for me after years of looking after others and putting their needs before my own. It's a revelation when you realise that you are enough.

Why would anyone think I am a chatbot, for the record I am not! I live in the U.S. in Virginia to be exact.
Hope that clears up anything I really am curious though what in my post would make someone think I'm a chatbot!

Good on you, gigi1958! It's my opinion that the men who infest online dating sites are in two definite categories: 50% scammers and 50% man-babies who are too damn lazy to housekeep for themselves.

Thanks Margs, the needy ones just ended it for me, none of them added to my life just takers. I could just feel myself taking care of them and thought here we go again. And when I wanted to vent about something they were just emotionally unavailable, so what is the purpose of the relationship. Seems like healthy relationships you support each other and I only found ones that wanted me to support them.

I ve done all the relationship stuff and unluckily never found the one that didn’t cheat, beat or retreat so I m, if you like used to and learnt how to be reasonably happy, alone, its peaceful, its safer and it’s ok once you get used to it

BlueBelle

I ve done all the relationship stuff and unluckily never found the one that didn’t cheat, beat or retreat so I m, if you like used to and learnt how to be reasonably happy, alone, its peaceful, its safer and it’s ok once you get used to it

BlueBelle, It feels really nice to just move ahead with my own life and my core happiness. But a few years ago I did have a guy that "got me" and it was a lot of fun, I wish I could have that back again! I did find one interesting thing while dating, men that were never married were more suited to me and my very independent nature.
But being alone beats being with someone that is not worth my time any day of the week.

I've been on my own since widowed. I'm independent and happy with lots of interests. I was talking to a male friend who'd tried internet dating but after dates with 3 women because he said they were all too needy and just wanted to off load their problems on to him.

I could have written exactly the same as you OP! It was not that I wanted someone to look after me but I did want to meet someone who could look after himself, physically and financially. I realised it was taking too much of my time and emotional energy and gave up about 10 years ago and am much happier since then.

I'm 68, widowed for 3 years, and I would never, ever want another relationship with a man. It takes so long to develop trust with someone, and I just can't afford that much time! Also, considering the probable age of any suitor, there is the chance that they could develop dementia and I'm not prepared to spend my last years nursing some crazy old man. I'm happy on my own, find lots to do to keep busy and I love my cosy little home.