I posted mid December about the problems I was having with my adult son .
I received lots of replies for which I am grateful and I took on board some of your advice so we did make up .
Although I think the stress of it all was a factor in me having to go into hospital over new year .
But anyway , just over a month later , problems have resurfaced again .
It’s my son’s child s birthday tomorrow so my GC and on Saturday , they want to take her to the zoo ; they have invited me and the other grandparents. Unfortunately, my husband can’t come as he is still in a nursing home .
My daughter so my sons sister would have liked to come as she has a free pass for that zoo and 3 young kids to keep happy on a January afternoon.
My son has said a firm no to this request and my daughter knows this although he hasn’t had the courage to tell her to her face.
I stand with my daughter on this as I would have loved to go out with all 4 grandchildren and I want them to be close as cousins.
Looking back. The problems always seem to be around my daughter so I think my son is jealous of her and he is jealous of how close I am to her children .
I am going to the zoo on Saturday but it will be tense as I really don’t agree with what he’s done
His wife , my DiL is not saying anything but I suspect she says a lot behind the scenes although I can’t prove it
So I have told my son how I feel and this has triggered another row and him saying a lot of hurtful things to me and being mildly threatening regarding me seeing them inc the gc
So here we are
I am very worried about the future for our family , my daughter doesn’t want anything to do with him now and I don’t know how this relationship can be repaired
I feel he ought to phone his sister and if not apologise at least explain to her his decision about the zoo
I wanted a close family but it looks like I can’t achieve it
What do you think.?
Good Morning Saturday 27th April 2024