My daughter in law is inept and useless as a mum.

Is there some way this thread can be broken?

Problem is, CariGransnet, new members coming across it get wound up (as Modesty intended) and post before they realise they are on a hiding to nothing.

"Modesty is the lowest of the virtues, and is a real confession of the deficiency it indicates. He who undervalues himself is justly undervalued by others".

hmm!! if the "daughter in law" was "my daughter" I would be very hurt and upset that her mother in law called her inept and useles as a mum.....my daughters ex partner called her this and many other things at the time...not very nice and some things we should keep to ourselves even if we do "think " them...I would just let them get on with things their way and try to enjoy your grandchild....

whoooooooops didnt see the " CariGransnet " post soz.! ..my lips are sealed..

SIDE?

Is this the school playground?
Are we all expected to take SIDES???

I am incensed at your behaviour towards another memeber of gransnet...she is entitled to her say without people ganging up against her...

You are entitled to disagree..but not to mock or verbally abuse!

As far as I am aware that constitutes bullying!
I would expect that in Mumsnet but not HERE!

And NO I will NOT be "taking sides"!

Oh....and so, are we to believe that all mums are PERFECT???

That there are no inept and useless mothers?
That we may not comment on that???

What a load of codswallop!

Who are you shouting at luna, there is nobody here ?

Think we may have been deluded by a provocative post?

TROLL ALERT

Do not feed trolls. If you ignore them they slink away.


How is that for a hazard sign?
Repeat at intervals if needed.

I thought we had retired this thread. PLEASE can we put it to bed for good?

Oh dear, I've just caught up with this uproar. I completely understand where Modesty is coming from - there was a mother climbing down from the top deck of the bus with a 2-year old stuck to her breast - double yuk. She wouldn't dream of walking about town bare-breasted ordinarily. I don't want to be subjected to nudity when I go to the pub, out to lunch, on a bus! What happened to good old modesty, and mystique being much more interesting than goose pimpled over large lumps of flesh on display.

However, it doesn't make her a bad parent or any of those other things - just uncomfortably different. And the baby will grow up inevitably and unglue itself.

Modesty deserved a fair hearing and I hope she hasn't been frightened off altogether.

Nanban The whole post was so over-the-top and vitriolic that no-one believed it was genuine, and "Modesty" had never posted anything, before or after this one. She did not return to the "discussion" she started.

I think everyone is justified in assuming that it was a wind-up. If it was not, she could have started a different thread with a more moderate approach. She did not.

Would anyone really do that!!!! How pointless.

There are some truly dreadful twats around, with too much time on their hands and nothing to do but be trolls and spoil things for others.
Best thing to do is ignore them. They wither away without the "oxygen of publicity" and the thrill of watching others get het up.

First and foremost this baby is loved thats the most important thing. Let them do their own parenting. Dont babysit.... Breastfeeding is great, its natual and should be encouraged. Just relax and enjoy being a Granny.

That last post is one of the most patronising I have read on GN!

em How do you search the forum for more posts by a named member?

elegran I think if you type the name in the green 'search forums' box it brings up all the references - whether as a contributor or a mention within a post.

Elegran - You might like to look up the word 'twat' in the dictionary.

You may disagree, but I consider it a highly derogative term for a woman.

Butternut I have to agree. I have a profound dislike of the names or slang names of female organs being used as insults.

Slang names for female organs - what does 'twat' mean??? This forum, message board begins to sound horribly like mumsnet - I looked on there and didn't like it at all. Let's leave this poor woman alone.

Don't forget - someone please explain twat!

Laidies; this is just what internet trolls set out to do..make everyone start argueing amongst themselves. Agree that this whole thread should be put away for good.

..they even make our spelling go to pieces...laidies....