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My daughter in law is inept and useless as a mum.

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Modesty Fri 03-Jun-11 11:22:35

My son married his wife last year. They have a 15 month old boy. I do not agree with how they are raising him, but I think it is more my daughter in law than my son.

She still breast feeds frequently and in public, she co sleeps and has no routine for his bedtime. She says it is some rubbish called attaching parenting but I think it is nonsense and will just result in a spoilt brat.

I babysat for them last week and put him to bed ( they have a cot in their room which he has never slept in) at 7. He screamed until they got home. In the end I shut the door and left him because he has to learn.

My daughter in law was not happy but I told her that he must have a bedtime routine. She does not work so I suspect this is why he doesn't have one.

What can I do to change her? She plays with him all day, rarely does any housework and is generally not a housewife at all. I worry for my son and grandson.

Anne58 Mon 24-Mar-14 14:54:08

No problem Ana, I didn't think you were being rude!

CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 24-Mar-14 15:02:10

Site was just having a break to eat cake - now full of sugar and running normally again

Nelliemoser Mon 24-Mar-14 15:20:46

Talk about a blast from the past! I find it very hard to see how such a very old post has come to be resurrected for no obvious reason.
It all sounds very odd indeed to me.

Anne58 Mon 24-Mar-14 15:30:13

Odd indeed, Nellie and by a new member. At least I think Gran2014 is new, haven't seen any other posts from her, but could be wrong, often am!

Welcome Gran2014 if you are new, tell us a bit about yourself, we don't bite! Wondering what made you decide to post on this particular thread?

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 24-Mar-14 15:50:02

Oh for heaven's sake! She was probably just looking through old Am I Being Unreasonable threads. Don't start cross examining poor woman. hmmgrin

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 24-Mar-14 15:51:20

Hope you the site enjoyed the cake break Cari.

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 24-Mar-14 15:53:02

I am full of sugar too. Mine was in the form of a very jammy jam sandwich. smile

Anne58 Mon 24-Mar-14 16:07:58

Don't think asking someone a couple of questions can be counted as "cross examining" jingl (

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 24-Mar-14 16:16:39

No. Alright! grin

Yogagirl Wed 26-Mar-14 08:45:03

Your d.i.l sounds like a lovely loving mum to me Modesty Take a look at 'cut out of their lives, that could be you if you do not become more mindful for your d.i.l & S's way of bringing up their child, and well said myfan & Grumpy

Yogagirl Wed 26-Mar-14 08:58:17

My nasty s.i.l, when he first meet my D; I came in from work and he was holding my D on the settee, to stop her going to my little GD,who was hysterical by that time in her cot, I don't know how long she had been like that, but feel it was a lot long than 10mins, my D was really distressed in being stopped to go to her baby, he said it was the way to go! I'm having nightmares now, re-living that scene! My poor little GD

Yogagirl Wed 26-Mar-14 09:01:50

Sorry, seems I only read the first page blush

Yogagirl Wed 26-Mar-14 09:41:59

Feel a bit of a dick now, just seen the date of the first post blush blush

Aka Wed 26-Mar-14 10:26:12

Don't feel like a dick! That situation you described was horrific and shouts control freak angry