Cut out of their lives

Oh! Heartiest congratulations! may the road rise up to meet you, and may the wind be ever at your back!

I am so happy for you, chadsky. Now your GD can have a secure and settled life with people who really love her and who are part of her life in every way. You must still be feeling very exhausted by the whole process, but now just relax and enjoy being her gran again. ((((hugs))))

That is really good news - many congratulations.

chadsky, that's wonderful! It's been a long, hard slog, but you've all got there.

Great news chadsky.Love and hugs to you and your GD.

Chadsky - brilliant news for you all, and all because you never gave up.

chadsky I couldn't be happier for you. Very well done. You've been through a terribly difficult time. You've remained focused. Now it's time to enjoy the reward of a satisfactory outcome. I wish you and your GD all the happiness that you richly deserve.

nanban and anyone who do not see their children or grandkids,,,,,,dont give up..my children shut me out of their lives heavens knows why,,,but when they were in trouble and were unhappy in their marriages ,,,where did they come,,,back to mum......i was so lonely and depressed. i did get a text message from one of them im pregnant,,,,thats all i got,,,the other one,,,i have a girl, i saw that little child once when i made myself go to the hospital and the mother n law was there first,,,my heart broke, i wasnt aloud to hold the baby so i made an exscuse to leave....i saw her 2 years later my prayers were answered,,,,they moved into the same village as i lived only they didnt have partners,,,,,,now i look after my grandkids most of the time,,,,they love their nanna....but i missed their baby years...but i have been blessed, i have them now.the only time i gt to spoil them is when their mothers are not with them,,,,god works in strange ways..and you cant have it all they say,,,,,,,so dont give up all you nans and grans,,,,,,they will come back and remember when they are older they can make up their own minds.

angiebaby,

chadsky - what fantastic news. Well done for persisting in the face of such awful bureacratic barriers.
angiebaby nice post. Good to hear from you.

do you all know that grandparents have legal rights in law to see their grandchildren. if i didnt see my grandkids i would take my children to court and take the nessasary action....although it would be very stressfull...it would make the children certainly sit up and think,

thanks marelli,,,,,,,,,thanks jessm.........im new..so pleased i have joined the group....you as you read,,,relise that you are not alone........we should all meet up one day and share our problems ...a problem shared is a problem halved so they say,,,,,,when you say your prayers girls ask god for a nice surprise this week and see what happens. when my children shut me out of there lives i prayed and prayed i was so depressed never thought they would ever treat me the way they did..........i prayed for god to bring them back into my life...........as i said i am now blessed to have them all around me.

chadsky how wonderful. Your story was so sad, I am really happy for you and your granddaughter. ((((hugs)))

angiebaby Great to hear your grandchildren are in your life now.

chadsky you give grandmothers a good name! Your grandaughter has a happy future ahead now, thanks to your persistence in the face of so much bureaucracy.

angiebaby - I believe that grandparents have no automatic legal rights of access or visitation, although a court can make an order in the interests of the child. Has the law changed recently?

Greatnan you are so right.Grandparents in UK have NO legal rights to see their grandchildren.There is a lot of talk but no prospect of change in the law at present.
Grans have the right to apply to courts for contact but it can cost thousands,be very long-winded,make matters worse with no guarantee of success if mother is still uncooperative.

chadsky such wonderful news. I wish you every happiness

Congratulations chadsky, you have taken on the system and won - not easy! I wish you a very happy future

So happy for you Chadsky . Pleased to tell you all that I spent a lovely 2 hours on the beach with my lovely little grandson yesterday. He is so bonny and happy - great day. No contact with son who has withdrawn completely. So glad I got social services onside and hopefully regular contact will continue. Just don't give up

That must have been lovely - I am always so glad to hear from those of you who have managed to establish some contact.

Fabulous SJP. I can just imagine what a great time you had together. We really are racking up some successes on here.

Have returned from holiday and there is no reply to my email; my one hope is that I have returned home a day earlier than planned but still feel numb.

crimson

Welcome back crimson. Don't give up, will you? Families are strange groupings at times and it only needs one person to upset the way everyone relates to each other. There are a few grans having some hard-won results, so let's hope it's soon going to be your turn

Angiebaby - welcome and thank you so much for your story - sadly, grandparents have no legal rights. There are supposedly all sorts of mediation routes and it is possible to finally get to court for a hearing, but if the son/daughter refuse or simply don't turn up that's the end of it. Nowhere does it say that grandchildren should have the right to know their grandparents. If only it did, and was enforceable it would be a line of communication, and a foundation for building relationships instead of a big black hole.

Crimson - I am so sorry and hope that maybe by now you'll have heard something. Oh so easy to say don't give up, very hard to keep going.