I feel like the lion (?) from the Wizard of Oz - I can't stand up to bullies.I have just had an uncomfortable "conversation" with a neighbour who lives at right angles to our house and whose fence is in poor nick. Granted it was overgrown with ivy which I had not touched as we used to have shrubs in front of it, granted I have painted our side with preservative (brown) since stripping off the ivy last summer granted I did not "ask his permission" so to do.
But there is a thin patch which is turning into a hole and his very aggressive Staffie/Rottweiler (not sure which but scary dog) launches himself at it from time to time which might not be helping. Anyway, I went round to ask in the nicest possible way what neighbour thought about the state of it and got an aggressive and threatening tirade of how I was guilty of "criminal damage" to his fence by allowing the ivy to grow and then painting the fence afterwards, he would fix it in his own good time blah, blah blah!
I remained calm, but was glad we were outside the front of his house, not inside or in the garden, and just said I was sorry he felt that way and walked away. I have now come home and sobbed my heart out because I have been bullied and don't know how to stand up to people like him. I don't want a dispute as I feel he is bloody minded enough to replace the fence with a see through wire one if pushed. I do not feel I am in the wrong (maybe) but I am not used to dealing with such hostility from a man who is over 6' tall and so loud and scary. No witnesses alas, but I wish I had more courage in situations like these. It has also occurred to me that were his dog to break through into our garden I wouldn't give much for Grace's chances or- much worse - the grandsons. We do not live in a "sink" estate in downtown dumpsville, but in a "middle class" village in N. Bucks.Is it too late at 64 to learn how to stand up to a bully?
Wordling away continued??? 🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩
Over the hill at 60? Why am I falling apart so soon?
Gov Emergency Alert Conspiracy Theory.