Hi - I was inspired to tell you about my own sadness after reading nanban's sad story.
My son's partner, who I'll call DiL for short even thought they're not married, has never really liked me, although I welcomed her and her prior two children, into our family. I kept my mouth shut for years, although she'd post nasty things on facebook, such as: when my grandson, Dan, was ill - I asked her how he was the next day. She said "Still here unfortunately". (That kind of thing).
Anyway, my father passed away (on Fathers' Day) two years ago. That first Christmas me, my husband and my mum had a quiet Christmas and my son brought Dan (then 2 1/2) to visit us on the day after boxing day. (DiL would never come with him). They stayed the night. Dan woke at 10am the next day, they shoved some breakfast down their necks and got on the road for the 2 hour journey back home.
Well - she was on facebook saying how she wished he'd hurry up because her brother was visiting. I answered, saying Dan had only woke up at 10 etc. She said she'd 'told' my son to leave early because of her brother etc. I then said (and I sooo wish I hadn't) that I thought she might have had a bit of compassion, seeing as it was the first Christmas without my dad.
All hell broke loose. Apparently, there and then, she ripped her Christmas tree down, her mum and family defriended me on facebook and she has refused to speak to me since.
I'm not allowed at their house. My son has brought Dan to see me twice since then (Dan used to come and stay regularly) - he is now nearly 4. On 12th March this year baby Joe was born. I haven't seen him yet. To be fair, DiL said that, once she'd recovered from the birth, she'd go out for a couple of hours so I could go and see Joe.
I have a couple of days off so I rang my son and asked if she was OK now so I could see Joe and he said no, not yet.
When my husband came home I was very upset and he rang my son and asked if I could park round the corner (in my camper van) and maybe he could bring the baby out to see me?
All hell broke loose again and my son texted me to say that he'd have to let me know when I can come up as he 'had dramas' there now as well - he was very curt - no kisses on the end and I have not heard from him since.
I cry myself to sleep all the time and I'm devastated and don't know what to do. I'm sure that she wanted me out of their lives all along and I've played right into her hands.
I've helped them out by giving them money I could ill afford and even gave my son my car. Like nanban I'm exhausted.
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