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We now have a date

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glammanana Sun 13-Jan-13 16:03:22

After the lovely news I told you all about in December about DS2 and his girlfriend and the up and coming wedding we now have a date 20th September so all booked and all systems go,one small niggle lovely girlfriend (and she is lovely)is only wanting two bridesmaids her friend and cousin and my DGD is heartbroken and my DD spitting feathers as DGD has not been asked, I am finding it hard to keep my own counsell on this as it is their choice but can understand that DGD is upset her favourite uncle has not asked her to be bridesmaid,DD has said she would pay costs of any extras for dress etc,where do I go from here ?

ginny Tue 15-Jan-13 16:58:00

So much is made these days about the 'wedding'. While it is nice to have all the trimmings, it is just one day. The important thing is the rest of the couples life.

annodomini Tue 15-Jan-13 17:15:33

Bags, I am the last person to be sexist but in calling it the bride's 'big day'. I was simply going along with the traditional view. The spotlight is usually on the bride although of course it's an equally important day for her groom.

jeni Tue 15-Jan-13 17:20:01

And they are the ^BRIDE'S* maids

Bags Tue 15-Jan-13 17:36:49

Oh yes, anno. I didn't mean to accuse anyone, and certainly not you. I just think the traditional view that you mention is sexist – for which there are historical reasons that make sense even if one doesn't like them. I'm glad things are changing for women, if slowly in some places.

And the 'traditional view' is not the view I ever took, nor that of either of the people I married. Don't worry, I'm used to being a freak wink