It good to see a balance of views, and I hope there hasn't going to be a fall out as there are some wise and well thought out comments in Tiger's post. So often, you can be so close to a problem that it can't be looked at objectively. Destructive behaviour is difficult to get away from when it brings the only comfort you can see around you, yet shedding it can bring change for the better. Sometimes, it has to be a leap of faith, and taking well-meant advice that appears to come from hindsight and effective relationship counselling could very well enable some alienated families to find a way to communicate in a more constructive way. It would be lovely to see some bridges being built because of the efforts made by grandparents, irrespective of the behaviour they don't like in their children. There have been plenty of examples of that here on Gransnet - forgiving mothers who understand when to be assertive and when to keep their counsel.
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