I have to agree with you hebrideanlady, some people are like this. I have a situation with my DD. I am new to this site and after reading all the heartbreaking stories, can identify with all the pain and grief behind all the sad stories. My D has turned into a monster, I don't know who she is anymore. We were once very close, I even delivered her first baby GS, with whom I have a very special bond and with whom I have seen through two major heart surgeries,one at 11 days old the second at 6 months old. My daughter's partner was no where to be seen when she needed him and she constantly made excuses for his behavior, leaving everyone else to pick up the pieces (mainly me). During the last few years while my GS has been ticking over, she has become more and more distant towards me. She has a habit of pushing and pulling me when it suits. She excludes me from any family events and only contacts me when she wants me to do something for her, if I cannot be at her beck and call I suffer the consequences badly, both with physical and verbal abuse. I am a mother and a nanny without any of the fringe benefits. I do not know her anymore, she makes cruel comments to me and my husband (her stepfather) who has been a rock when she needed him, he has had to put up with the same abuse from her also. She does not allow us to see our GC that often without a hitch or an ulterior motive and always on her terms I am never allowed to speak with my GS on the phone, she deliberately excludes us from knowing anything about his hospital appointments, his nativity plays or any special events. My heart is breaking I cannot sleep thinking about him because when he is allowed to speak with me he tells me he loves me and misses me (he is just 4 years old) I am a broken women with all this emotional blackmail and stress from my daughter. My GS is due to have another very serious heart operation soon and she constantly keeps me out of the loop when I ask her. She has becoming controlling, manipulating and a compulsive liar and I am now afraid to stand up to her in case she doesn't let me seem him in the hospital. My doctor has told me it is time to take care of myself and has kindly given me some medication to help me through my bad days. My daughter is unaware of the any of this and the fact that we are still making sacrifices unknown to her to remain in the country to support her when he has his next operation. She would only tell me well I didn't ask you to and if I need you I will tell you where and when and just mocks me and calls me dramatic. She has grown so jealous of my relationship with my GS and will do anything to keep us apart and for him to feel that I do not love him anymore. I have literally put my life on hold for a just in case moment. I cannot let him down because he would not understand why nanny was not there. So sorry for the long story but I needed to get this off my chest. I do not know what advice anyone can give to me that I have not tried -thank you for listening.