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To have got a bit cross and shouty...

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thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 12:34:45

... when DH expected me to drive DD to her riding lesson when I had just finished getting hot and bothered (though satisfied with my work) with a hedge cutter, a saw, and loppers, tackling a rhododendron hedge that needs a ladder for me to reach the top, and all he had done this morning is lie in bed until eleven, drink coffee and lounge about reading his kindle?

He always drives her there when we are going to archery afterwards (except for one or two occasions when I have, but that has been when I haven't been hacking rhodies all morning). He likes driving and I don't. He knows this. He hates tackling hedges. Seems like a reasonable split of work to me.

Anyway, I got cross and shouty and they left. I went and had a cross shower and now I'm writing this, drinking coffee (crossly) and biting snappishly into some biscuits. Snarl. Growl.

I started some bread dough earlier. I think I'd better go and thump it.

Grrrrrr and thank you for letting me shout on gransnet. Outward sigh, somewhat releaved by getting it off my chest.

Small growl.

They forgot to take a cheque to pay for the lesson, naturally. Humph.

kittylester Sat 24-Aug-13 12:41:15

No bags you are not being unreasonable. Any reasonable woman would have done the same grin And I bet the bread will be great. smile

gracesmum Sat 24-Aug-13 12:42:36

smile and brew - let them regard it as father/daughter bonding time.
I am so relieved to hear my DH isn't the only one to regard reading (in his case iPad) in bed until 11 a valid use of time on a Saturday.

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 12:56:21

gm, he wasn't even awake until eleven! Neither was DD. They only woke up then because I'd put an alarm on, knowing I'd be busy outside. Humph again.

janeainsworth Sat 24-Aug-13 12:57:08

Sometimes they have to have it socked to them, don't they?
I was tempted to post earlier on, about the irritation I feel that MrA is incapable of taking his shoes off and putting them away in the hall cupboard where there is a shoe-rack specifically for the purpose of storing his shoes. But no. He leaves them on the floor in the hall and I am certain that should I pre-decease him, within a couple of weeks of my demise there will be a small shoe-mountain in the hall.
This morning he surpassed himself. In my utility room I have some shelves where I keep my stocks of tissues, kitchen rolls and loo paper. At the moment there are two multi-packs of loo paper to choose from, the one I got from Tesco a few weeks ago and another one that was surplus to requirements from the sailing trip he was on last week.
I went into the utility room to find both multi-packs on the floor, with a couple of rolls spilled out in a random fashion.
When I asked him why he had had to remove both packs from the shelves and leave them on the floor just to get another loo roll, his reply was that he did not suffer from OCD shockshock
Honestly!! What can you do??

Ana Sat 24-Aug-13 13:02:19

Jane, I am asolutely flabbergasted! shock

Neither you nor thatbags is being unreasonable in my opinion, but while I can just about accept that her OH and DD could still be asleep at 11 a.m., I can't see your OH's reasoning at all! He seems to be suffering from OCD in reverse.....confused

Elegran Sat 24-Aug-13 13:07:02

Next time you replace a toilet roll or kitchen roll, I would be tempted to put the rest of the pack into his bed or his wardrobe - with all the rolls falling out of the pack, of course. If (when) he complains, you say you just put them down there for a while until you felt like putting them where they belong, and as he has found them first, perhaps he will put them away.

MiceElf Sat 24-Aug-13 13:22:03

Deep respect for being able to use all those tools. Let's hope you are not criticised either for not reminding them to take the cheque which they should have remembered. But I wouldn't hold my breath.

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 13:28:51

If they should dare, jane, they'll get a right blasting. I think they know this wink

sunseeker Sat 24-Aug-13 13:29:46

Perhaps you should leave them a note saying you are out for the rest of the day, will be back at 7.00 and can they have dinner ready - that should wake them up!

nanaej Sat 24-Aug-13 13:59:27

perfectly reasonable response! flowers I hate getting so annoyed as it spoils the day but sometimes TINA!

Galen Sat 24-Aug-13 13:59:31

It's a man and DD thing!

j08 Sat 24-Aug-13 14:06:11



j08 Sat 24-Aug-13 14:07:10

Unless you have got leaves which you are re-doing.


Ella46 Sat 24-Aug-13 14:21:04

bags next time I would be inclined not to set an alarm, as minibags is old enough to get herself up and then wake her dad!

janea I would just leave the shoes there until he trips over them.



kittylester Sat 24-Aug-13 14:30:10

DHJ will run out of crockery if I die first. But he will wonder what the heck all those plates etc are doing on the work surface above the dishwasher! angry

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 14:34:22

bags bellow away...I would. That bread you're making will be all the better for a good wallop! wink

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 14:36:38

...and you take great care with the tools and ladder. I'm looking forward to meeting you again.

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 14:39:27

Save the crust for your little friend. smile

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 14:52:28

Actually, ella, I think that's a good suggestion. DD is at that awkward age of wanting more independence but still being dependent about daft stuff like that confused

Yeah, jings, I noticed the spelling mistake. Couldn't be bothered to mention it, so thanks, dahling hmm smile

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 14:54:25

soop, I made sure that I'd wedged the ladder good and proper by jumping up and down on it a bit without the tools and making sure it was well tangled in some firm branches before I got started with chopping.

soop Sat 24-Aug-13 15:55:20

Oh dear. I do hope that you've finished lopping the high hedge. Goosebumps running along my arm as I imagine you precariously perched on a ladder. hmm

janeainsworth Sat 24-Aug-13 16:00:06

Good advice Ella and *Elegran thank yousmile
Bags I hope you are basking in the pleasant glow of all you have achieved today and your DH and DD come home suitably chastened grin

thatbags Sat 24-Aug-13 16:33:07

jane, Yep! You bet! grin

soop, finished for today, but there's still masses to do on other days.

Mishap Sat 24-Aug-13 21:09:43

"Cross and shouty" sounds appropriate and therapeutic - go girl!