Being lied to again

I'm the mother of a 43 year old, 42 year old, 37 year old, 35 year old and 29 year old. They are all so very different but all lovely in their own way. Have a lovely Christmas Katy xxx

Flower - How lovely. My DD is 43. Maybe because she is an only child I am a bit clingy. I hope you and yours have a wonderful Christmas and a happy and healthy 2014 x

Realised today that my son and his girlfriend were at my daughters yesterday [who lives 5 minutes away] and gave her a Christmas card to pass on to me. Haven't seen him for ages and will [hopefully] see him late Christmas day. At least he didn't just push it through the letterbox and drive off I suppose . Good job I'm developping a thicker skin as I get older [at least, I think I am ]. My main role in life these days seems to be to let tradespeople into their homes when they're at work or be there for deliveries ].

they are your son till they get themselves a wife /girlfriend !!

x

I'm just glad he's such good friends with his sister these days [it only took @ 26 years for that to happen!]. Families, eh .

I sometimes think 'be careful what you wish for' in my relationship with all my children. I miss the closeness we had when they were children and have often wished they'd talk to me more or especially with my sons give me the same amount of time they give their wives parents.My oldest has a wife, a teenager and 3 under 5's. So his life is manic. Before the last three he used to come every Sunday on his own for breakfast and a chat. I miss it but not enough for me to invite the whole lot of them every week. Not so long ago he had an injury and I had to drive to and from the hospital,a round trip of about 60 miles and for the first time in years he really opened up to me. I remember thinking " stop telling me all this, now I'll worry" My daughter often tells me porkies about her social life. Apart from wanting to tell her I'm not stupid I let it go over my head and smile wryly. When she does tell me the truth it's often something I'd be better off not knowing. My youngest will sometimes tell me something and say " but don't tell ..... (his wife.) I think well don't tell me either. I'm never happy.

It's like when he was away at uni I worried a little bit all the time, whereas when he was living at home I would lie awake at night waiting for his car to pull into the drive. When he worked nights in London if he wasn't back when I left for work I used to make an excuse to drive home so I could check he'd got home safely! What are we??

I'm the same, tegan. Mind you, he's only 18! I said to my daughter that I worried that he wouldn't stay in touch once he had left home properly. She sort of hesitated and said that, to be honest, she barely thought of us at all until she had children of her own. As I can't see Son having children (on purpose) for many years I fear that he will just forget about us. He has no sense of the passing of time and still can't remember when our birthdays are!

Tegan I can handle it all except the fibs. As Kiora says please don't treat me as if I'm stupid, because I am not.