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Shall I wait or tell my Mum?

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Gambit23 Sat 08-Feb-14 12:03:58


I need some advice from Grans. I'm 6 weeks pregnant and had originally planned to tell my mum after I had my 12 week scan and knew all was well. However I've now had to tell a friend my news because I was staying with her and my insisting on decaf tea, refusing alcohol and soft cheese etc made her suspicious.

I feel bad that someone already knows and my mum doesn't.

From a gran (or gran-to-be) point of view would you rather know as soon as possible or after the scan? I think she will worry about me so waiting until the scan might avoid that stress. But I feel a bit like I'm betraying her by not telling her straight away.

What do you think? Thanks

Ana Sat 08-Feb-14 18:46:40

Gambit's already said she intends to! She posted as much at 1300 hrs...

Rowantree Sat 08-Feb-14 18:50:00

I agree with everyone here -tell her! And keep us posted smile x

MamaCaz Sat 08-Feb-14 18:54:16

I hope that in the meantime mum hasn't read this on gransnet and put 2 & 2 together and realised that we all knew before her!

bikergran Sat 08-Feb-14 18:58:28

only just read the thread and yes would have said go and tell your mum smile don't wait smile

whenim64 Sat 08-Feb-14 19:33:54

Oh, Manacaz! If any of us hear good news today, we'll be thinking it's us! grin

Gambit23 Sun 09-Feb-14 11:46:08

Was all set to go - and found out she's gone away for a long weekend, back Tuesday! I'll have to wait, I'd rather do it in person. I'm very excited now that you've all persuaded me it's the best thing to do.

soop Sun 09-Feb-14 11:56:31

Drat! Was hoping to hear all about her reaction. grin

Aka Sun 09-Feb-14 12:14:59

Me too. Feedback please when to tell her!

Rowantree Sun 09-Feb-14 17:53:21

Go for it, Gambit - bet she'll be over the proverbial moon!

POGS Sun 09-Feb-14 18:41:12

Flipping heck Gambit I was looking forward to coming on here and see you say you had a good old hug and shared a little tear of joy.


susieb755 Sun 09-Feb-14 21:14:08

Tell her -if shes anything like me, she already knows !

Iam64 Mon 10-Feb-14 09:01:34

Congratulations Gambit - to you, and your mum x

lucyinthesky Mon 10-Feb-14 12:16:57

Please just TELL HER and congrats to you too. Hope all goes well but your Mum should be there to enjoy the journey as soon as you know.

Pauline65 Sat 15-Feb-14 15:21:28

Tell her straight away. she will be disappointed if you haven't told her and someone already knows. why wait. if something happened before the 12 week scan you would let her know I assume rather than keep it a secret. she will probably be absolutely thrilled. go for it. wink

yogagran Mon 24-Feb-14 16:36:07

Gambit - we'd love an update please smile

babyjack Thu 13-Mar-14 21:15:42

Yes I agree, tell her at once, it changes her life to in such a magical way so she will be able to enjoy it as soon as possible!

soop Fri 14-Mar-14 16:02:34

Gambit - I'm waiting...wink