Modern manners

I am useless at sending 'thank you' letters , fortunately my girls are much better. Two sent hand made cards and the youngest had a group photograph printed on a card to send to some and a picture of the bride and groom for those who were not at the reception.

Pity it is too expensive now to post pieces of wedding cake. We received a piece of funeral cake from my OH's cousin following the death of his wife. Don't think you can put that under your pillow!

I would give them three months. With a list delivery may be delayed until after the honeymoon and then unwrapped bit by bit. I have had thank you letters as late as three months after the event - but I have always received them.

As I said examples of BAD manners. But I don't think we should sink to sounding like caricature old dears lamenting modern manners, there have always been instances of absence of good manners as if everything from our youth was perfect!

We were invited to friends' son's wedding about 14 months ago. It was a last minute invitation so we gave money (quite a reasonable amount). To date we haven't received an acknowledgement and I hear they have split up already.

Also sent some money to friend's grandchildren several weeks ago as a thankyou, have heard nothing yet.

DIL always writes nice thankyou notes and is getting DGD1 to start writing her own. DD1 &2 tend to phone to thank us, although DD1 sends a written note from DGS. And several of DC's friends and my friend's DDs have sent lovely thankyous with photos

Yes, it's not modern manners. I send flowers every year to an elderly lady for her birthday, she's now 91 and I've never yet had an acknowledgement. When I visit I do ask if the flowers have been delivered just to be sure and they always have been.

Eighteen months ago I was invited to a wedding which I would have loved to attend but my husband's health meant I couldn't go. We decided we would send them a cheque for the equivalent of what I would have spent on the rail ticket (I didn't want to drive all that way on my own) and hotel costs. It came to a good amount as it is about 300 mile away. I have never had a thank you, a wedding photo or phone call - nothing. I know they received it as the cheque was cashed.

a note from the couple to thank you would be correct but they may have only just received it following a honeymoon and maybe even a move into a new home. Try asking your good friends whether they have received it yet and that may jog a card to say thanks