Since so many are in the same situation, surely we shd speak up. I am not going to bite my tongue forever. I told son that DiL will have to accept that PEOPLE are entitled to have different viewpoints and that her way of interpreting things is just HER way : other people have different interpretations and that she can't simply call people LIARS who disagree with her...something he never did. Nor is it ABNORMAL for Grandparents to show interest in seeing their GC. If anything, the opposite would be true.
Being civil isn't so hard. dIL is ignorant and unkind but I would never say that and am now no longer interested in bending over backwards to accommodate her whims as son realises. He wants his kid to see us more but backbone is developing only slowly. I'd like to tell him that it's high time DIL considered him more...still biting tongue on that one!
Scottish island ferries debacle. 🏴