Wedding meal

My DD had sausage and mash!

I'd be delighted if curry was on the menu - a welcome change from the usual rubber chicken!

I'll go in your place overthehill

I've mentioned before that friends of ours are renewing their wedding vows and then taking over an Indian Restaurant. I'm not convinced about renewal of vows services but I will overcome my reservations on this occasion!

My son and fiancée have decided on a hog roast outside and vegetarian meals for those who want them for the wedding breakfast, then a hot buffet in the evening with sausage and mash, and different big pies. The three layer cake is going to be fruit, chocolate and 'a surprise' for the top layer. The mind boggles!

Sausage and mash yes.

See your point about the chicken but DH would rather eat rubber chicken than curry.

Generally there isn't a choice though at weddings like there would be in a restaurant so usually the safe option is the way they go.

whenim64

Can we come to your sons wedding instead please.

You see they have considered not everyone would appreciate the hog roast (we would) and have offered alternatives.

Course you can, overthehill!

Sounds like you're more peeved about not receiving an invitation than having to eat curry.

I am with you on this one over the hill, although I don't mind a mild curry I draw the line at having my posh outfit smelling as if I had done a shift at the local take-away.

'Curry' gets a bad press and many people ( not me) dislike it perhaps because they distrust it. But 'curry' is a catch all term for all sorts of wonderful dishes and is truly the best way to cope with meat eaters/ vegetarians/vegans at a function. The best wedding breakfast I ever had was at an Indian/English wedding where the food was prepared by the Indian grooms family. It was Southern Indian and did not taste of 'curry' powder, was a beautifully presented and delicious buffet of lentils, vegetables, tofu and all sorts of things, and was so delicious that even the most conservative eater loved it and didnt realise until afterwards that there was no meat. the yukky stinking curries that we can buy at supermarkets bear no relation at all to wonderful Indian food with all its variety.

Well if I went I'd have to leave some sarnies in the car !!
I totally agree, their wedding, their choice. I just can't eat anything remotely spicy not even salsa. DH however, would be in his element.

Merlotgran

Certainly not. The invite is a mystery apparently it was supposed to be sent to us no fewer than 3 times and did not arrive. You see our friends are not in charge of the invites, the girl and her parents are. I am guessing they had a certain number they could invite and we exceeded that. I quite understand you can't go on forever. And to be truthful it is right on top of Christmas plus we will only know our friends and their immediate family, so without putting too finer point on it, the curry offered a lifeline if you get my meaning.

GillT57

Yes if it is Indian/English wedding you would expect the sort of fare you describe. I do not doubt it would be delicious, but DH is very set in his ways and he will not budge. We have explained to our friends it is best we do not go as he will refuse to eat it and cause embarrassment so we will wish them the best from afar.

I am sorry but if the invitation was 'supposed to be sent no fewer than 3 times' but has not...it never was coming.

Do they have the wrong address? Someone somewhere may be wondering whether they want a curry meal enough to impersonate you.

A good get out for you then,overthehill and I agree it's a strange choice of wedding food. A lot of older people won't be able to eat it [or won't want to] neither will a lot of children.

HildaW

I quite agree, but our friends keep insisting they would have sent it. Our friend has asked me to confirm our address and postcode, which I have done. Our friend is distraught over this but as I said, once I heard about the curry I knew we wouldn't be attending anyway.

We haven't been invited to a family wedding [the S.O.'s family] and I have to admit to being relieved as I wouldn't know anyone [weddings are like that] but at the same time we're a bit hurt that we can't go ; which I know is two faced of us. I would have had to wear smart clothes for two days and one day is my limit.

Curry does sound a bit unusual, but maybe they have alternatives for those who can't eat highly spiced food? Not everyone can eat it.

As to renewing of vows, kittylester - that always amuses me. Do the original ones wear out eventually or what? Should I worry? Mine are over 40 years old...

I really don't like weddings, generally speaking. They cost a huge amount which could be better spent on putting towards a house or furnishing a first home, or, dare I say it, saving. But most people seem to go in for them. They can be very tedious if you don't know many of the guests. And wedding invitations, or the lack of them, can cause a lot of hurt and upset - as overthehill ,Tegan and others will testify!
The simplest ones are often nicest. DD3 of a dear friend of mine was married by her own mother in their local church and had the reception in the back garden, in a hired marquee, and a friend made the cake. Not a big outlay at all and not a huge guest list either.

It's to be hoped the bride doesn't drop any on her dress as curry stains are hard to remove!

Maybe they'll have already thought of that, Aka, and opted for a brown wedding-dress!

I think I would be worried in my friend's place Rowan as she isn't keen but her DH is insistent. I'd want to know what he'd been up to. Ours aren't worn out either - strange!

We are going to the wedding of a friend's daughter in October we will only know the brides immediate family and are on nodding terms with her aunt and uncle. Thinking about it, this has been the case with all the weddings I've been too. The previous one we attended was our Godson. We'd never even met the bride before and left still not having met her !
Isn't it the case that you only know a few people at a wedding ? I thought that was normal.

As you say in the Op, it is their wedding, and anyway you are not invited, does it really matter what they are having as a 'Wedding breakfast', I did that for my 2nd wedding and hardly anyone understood the significance of it.
Relax, there are more things in the world to get stressed over.

Felice

I thought the idea of these forums was to discuss things. I find it strange that people like to tell us to 'relax' or words to that effect. In other words keep quiet.

I personally try to put posts up that might evoke interest from others as this has done. I enjoy reading other points of view.