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Wedding meal

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overthehill Tue 01-Jul-14 09:25:22

Friends of ours son, is getting married and they are having curry as the `wedding breakfast`.

Fortunately, although they were supposed to send us an invitation, for some reason or another it never turned up.

As it turned out this was very fortuitous, because we had no idea the meal would be curry and my husband hates it and the smell and we have only just heard this is their choice of food.

Of course it is their wedding and they have what they like but I do find curry a strange choice.

What do others think. They are white English by the way.

Mishap Tue 01-Jul-14 09:26:27

My DD had sausage and mash!

vegasmags Tue 01-Jul-14 09:27:34

I'd be delighted if curry was on the menu - a welcome change from the usual rubber chicken!

kittylester Tue 01-Jul-14 09:32:11

I'll go in your place overthehill smile

I've mentioned before that friends of ours are renewing their wedding vows and then taking over an Indian Restaurant. I'm not convinced about renewal of vows services but I will overcome my reservations on this occasion!grin

whenim64 Tue 01-Jul-14 09:32:39

My son and fiancée have decided on a hog roast outside and vegetarian meals for those who want them for the wedding breakfast, then a hot buffet in the evening with sausage and mash, and different big pies. The three layer cake is going to be fruit, chocolate and 'a surprise' for the top layer. The mind boggles! grin

overthehill Tue 01-Jul-14 09:32:51

Sausage and mash yes.

See your point about the chicken but DH would rather eat rubber chicken than curry.

Generally there isn't a choice though at weddings like there would be in a restaurant so usually the safe option is the way they go.

overthehill Tue 01-Jul-14 09:35:19


Can we come to your sons wedding instead please.

You see they have considered not everyone would appreciate the hog roast (we would) and have offered alternatives.

whenim64 Tue 01-Jul-14 09:50:02

Course you can, overthehill! smile

merlotgran Tue 01-Jul-14 10:13:55

Sounds like you're more peeved about not receiving an invitation than having to eat curry.

harrigran Tue 01-Jul-14 10:42:17

I am with you on this one over the hill, although I don't mind a mild curry I draw the line at having my posh outfit smelling as if I had done a shift at the local take-away.

GillT57 Tue 01-Jul-14 11:50:24

'Curry' gets a bad press and many people ( not me) dislike it perhaps because they distrust it. But 'curry' is a catch all term for all sorts of wonderful dishes and is truly the best way to cope with meat eaters/ vegetarians/vegans at a function. The best wedding breakfast I ever had was at an Indian/English wedding where the food was prepared by the Indian grooms family. It was Southern Indian and did not taste of 'curry' powder, was a beautifully presented and delicious buffet of lentils, vegetables, tofu and all sorts of things, and was so delicious that even the most conservative eater loved it and didnt realise until afterwards that there was no meat. the yukky stinking curries that we can buy at supermarkets bear no relation at all to wonderful Indian food with all its variety.

ninathenana Tue 01-Jul-14 15:23:19

Well if I went I'd have to leave some sarnies in the car !!
I totally agree, their wedding, their choice. I just can't eat anything remotely spicy not even salsa. DH however, would be in his element.

overthehill Tue 01-Jul-14 15:26:02


Certainly not. The invite is a mystery apparently it was supposed to be sent to us no fewer than 3 times and did not arrive. You see our friends are not in charge of the invites, the girl and her parents are. I am guessing they had a certain number they could invite and we exceeded that. I quite understand you can't go on forever. And to be truthful it is right on top of Christmas plus we will only know our friends and their immediate family, so without putting too finer point on it, the curry offered a lifeline if you get my meaning.


Yes if it is Indian/English wedding you would expect the sort of fare you describe. I do not doubt it would be delicious, but DH is very set in his ways and he will not budge. We have explained to our friends it is best we do not go as he will refuse to eat it and cause embarrassment so we will wish them the best from afar.

HildaW Tue 01-Jul-14 15:41:46

I am sorry but if the invitation was 'supposed to be sent no fewer than 3 times' but has never was coming.

Elegran Tue 01-Jul-14 15:44:00

Do they have the wrong address? Someone somewhere may be wondering whether they want a curry meal enough to impersonate you.

rosesarered Tue 01-Jul-14 17:19:07

A good get out for you then,overthehill and I agree it's a strange choice of wedding food. A lot of older people won't be able to eat it [or won't want to] neither will a lot of children.

overthehill Wed 02-Jul-14 13:08:50


I quite agree, but our friends keep insisting they would have sent it. Our friend has asked me to confirm our address and postcode, which I have done. Our friend is distraught over this but as I said, once I heard about the curry I knew we wouldn't be attending anyway.

Tegan Wed 02-Jul-14 14:01:39

We haven't been invited to a family wedding [the S.O.'s family] and I have to admit to being relieved as I wouldn't know anyone [weddings are like that] but at the same time we're a bit hurt that we can't go confused; which I know is two faced of us. I would have had to wear smart clothes for two days and one day is my limit.

Rowantree Wed 02-Jul-14 15:30:36

Curry does sound a bit unusual, but maybe they have alternatives for those who can't eat highly spiced food? Not everyone can eat it.

As to renewing of vows, kittylester - that always amuses me. Do the original ones wear out eventually or what? Should I worry? Mine are over 40 years old...wink

I really don't like weddings, generally speaking. They cost a huge amount which could be better spent on putting towards a house or furnishing a first home, or, dare I say it, saving. But most people seem to go in for them. They can be very tedious if you don't know many of the guests. And wedding invitations, or the lack of them, can cause a lot of hurt and upset - as overthehill ,Tegan and others will testify!
The simplest ones are often nicest. DD3 of a dear friend of mine was married by her own mother in their local church and had the reception in the back garden, in a hired marquee, and a friend made the cake. Not a big outlay at all and not a huge guest list either.

Aka Wed 02-Jul-14 16:04:59

It's to be hoped the bride doesn't drop any on her dress as curry stains are hard to remove!

Rowantree Wed 02-Jul-14 16:10:13

Maybe they'll have already thought of that, Aka, and opted for a brown wedding-dress!

kittylester Wed 02-Jul-14 16:19:30

I think I would be worried in my friend's place Rowan as she isn't keen but her DH is insistent. I'd want to know what he'd been up to. Ours aren't worn out either - strange!

ninathenana Wed 02-Jul-14 16:22:03

We are going to the wedding of a friend's daughter in October we will only know the brides immediate family and are on nodding terms with her aunt and uncle. Thinking about it, this has been the case with all the weddings I've been too. The previous one we attended was our Godson. We'd never even met the bride before and left still not having met her !
Isn't it the case that you only know a few people at a wedding ? I thought that was normal.

felice Thu 03-Jul-14 20:08:22

As you say in the Op, it is their wedding, and anyway you are not invited, does it really matter what they are having as a 'Wedding breakfast', I did that for my 2nd wedding and hardly anyone understood the significance of it.
Relax, there are more things in the world to get stressed over.

overthehill Fri 04-Jul-14 16:22:31


I thought the idea of these forums was to discuss things. I find it strange that people like to tell us to 'relax' or words to that effect. In other words keep quiet.

I personally try to put posts up that might evoke interest from others as this has done. I enjoy reading other points of view.