Don't like family gatherings

I seem to remember Cretin mentioning before the fact she lives on Crete.

I think people should stop taking things personally. It smacks of self pity. Or the need for others' sympathy.

I think we saw the intention to be humorous, but did not feel it was funny - as it would not be funny if someone took the username "mongol" or "nigger".

Rubbish. Total.

Who the hell really connects cretin with a medical condition these days?

[shrug].....not entering into this.

Would spastic or spaz be OK then? Or moron?

I think most of us on here do associate all those words with medical conditions, and they're all (including 'cretin') deemed to be offensive these days.

For once I don't agree with you at all, jingl. (No, I know you couldn't care less! )

I think if they treated me like that, Cb2009, I'd have told them to stop being so b........ rude or I'd 'foxtrot oscar'. There are limits!

Oh for goodness sake people; is this really the impression we want to give of Grans Net?

A lady posts on this site for the first time with a heart breaking account of how she is being treated by her children and Jane10 questions whether she's chosen her user name because of 'low self esteem'. Well, if she does have low self esteem that wont have helped her very much will it.

Then Cretin's user name along with my own is questioned. This poster lives in Crete; work it out ladies.

No Ana, spastic, spaz or moron would not be OK, obviously. What makes you think Elegran that it was Cretin's intention to be humorous? She's already explained that she chose this name because she lives in Crete. I can't imagine that any one would pick the names mongol or nigger as an attempt at humor.

I agree jinglbellfrocks this is indeed total rubbish. I agree with you too papaoscar but only after my dear hubby explained to me what you meant by 'foxtrot oscar'.

There are indeed limits, and they've certainly been reached on here.

If the names I mentioned would not be OK, 'obviously', why is cretin fine, then, Smileless? Threads do wander, as you know. I'm not sure we should be constantly worrying about what impression others are getting of Gransnet either.

I think to live on Crete and so choose 'cretin' as a forum name, is quite funny really.

And I think if you lived in Outer Mongolia and so called yourself 'Mongol' that would be ok.

I had no idea that Cretin was for someone who had associations with Crete and in fact find it horrid because yes I assumed thay were saying that they were stupid as I assume that Smileless is a depressed joyless person and that Chicken something or other is weak and cowardly out of choice.jingle you may think that we shouldn't criticise others names but I make a point of not reading Smiless' posts even though I'm sure she has made many valid and valuable points in her long posts but I feel her name means that she is determined to be unhappy. I'm sure she has posted on cheerful subjects but I don't have to read them equally she doesn't have to read mine and im sure she never bothers. I always try to read the two Janes and kittylester and can never understand the antagonism between Nonu and Soutra neither of whose names I've ever worked out the derivation. I enjoy reading Granjura and find Galen interesting as we have The works of Galen on kindle in Latin here. I think I judge books by their covers.

Nonu and Soutra. -antagonistic? Nous?

Jingle much as I have struggled I can find no humour in the word Cretin. I heard it used about people in a children's home near me when I was young and impressionable .it was a terrible place.

Yes, but not everyone lives in the past anymore.

And it's not as though anyone is actually calling another person that. That would obviously be wrong. But - a forum name - offensive?!

I think we should worry about the impression that's given to a poster who is genuinely looking for advice and has their chosen user name questioned Ana, and when a poster who seeks to give advice is criticized for the choice of their user name, due to connotations being linked to it, that were never intended. I don't think the same can be said of the examples you gave.

I think I might ask GNHQ if I can change my forum name to shiteme. I quite like that.

Oh jinglbellsfrocks you do make me; don't change your user name, I think it's great.

You may or may not be suggesting I live in the past JBF and cretins thank god don't seem to be born anymore tho I may be wrong but believe you me you don't forget. And I still think a chosen name reflects an outlook on life.

Shiteme depending on how you pronounce it could well be something delightfully /disgustingly raw Japanese. Oh please have some sashimi shiteme with rice crackers and salmon skin and Unami sprinkled on top . The wasabi and pickled plums are just next to it. Very Abigail's party 20012

Like mine, you mean?

Eglantine if anything please!

I'm more MalbecwithatouchofSauvignonBlancbutneverrefuseVintageChampagne . Much too long for a user name.

I am not a depressed and joyless person Stansgran which is why my user name is Smileless as opposed to joyless or depressed. I suppose I can see why you've jumped to the completely wrong conclusion as you've never read any of my posts, long or short, but you are quite correct when you say that I have made may valid and valuable points. Very insightful of you considering you've never read any of them.

Far from being determined to be unhappy, I'm determined not to be and am also determined for others not to be made unhappy either. Why produce a tear in some ones eye, when you can just as easily raise a smile.

RIP ... Cretin who once enjoyed a daily dabble into gransnet ... Bye bye to some decent people who supported me when I needed a shoulder to cry on when my grandaughter was diagnosed with a life limiting condition . I'm deleting my account because I really do have more wholesome things to do with my life rather than this constant introspection into my username .....

So sorry, Cretin please reconsider.

NO, jingl!!!!