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Daughter over son

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Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:01:01

Hi my mum thinks I prioritise my daughters over my son I have always bought my daughters expensive vans as school shoes now that my son has started to wear cheap primark plimsolls as school shoes similar to vans my mum thinks my daughters should be in the primark ones aswell because I can't afford to buy my son a pair should they ?

Katek Thu 19-Feb-15 11:07:35

Go Phoenix, go Phoenix, go Phoenix!!! With you 100%!! We've only lost our youth - not our marbles!

gillybob Thu 19-Feb-15 11:03:39

Liza80 I think your mum is right. You do seem to love your daughters much more than your son. This will come back to haunt you in years to come as your son will hold a grudge against his sisters for always having the best shoes. Kids can be cruel and I pity your son having to carry a Primark or Shoe Zone carrier bag when your daughters are carrying a much more expensive brand. Absolute transparent favouritism.

Brendawymms Thu 19-Feb-15 08:51:33

Three cheers for phoenix

loopylou Thu 19-Feb-15 08:20:00

I'm with phoenix on this

Anne58 Thu 19-Feb-15 07:53:17

Liza80 is your son Benjamin Button? I only ask because he was 12 on your other thread and now he seems to be 11? [innocent face]

grannyactivist Thu 19-Feb-15 00:25:59

grin

absent Thu 19-Feb-15 00:25:24

phoenix Don't be shy. Tell us what you really think.

Anne58 Wed 18-Feb-15 22:36:42

PS, You are not being unreasonable, just irritating and totally transparent.

HTH.

Now SOD OFF

Anne58 Wed 18-Feb-15 22:35:24

Oh ffs! I think I made my own stance clear via a post on your last thread on the subject! Except in that thread it was Shoe Zone that you referred to, now it seems to be Primark!

Please, please either go away or (I can't think what, but I would like you to do it anyway)

Ana Wed 18-Feb-15 22:29:01

Or delete both of them.

annodomini Wed 18-Feb-15 22:19:04

Please, HQ, would you either delete this thread or combine it with the one on exactly the same subject?

Soutra Wed 18-Feb-15 22:06:18

Or indeed, anybody. . . . . .

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 18-Feb-15 22:04:44

Why don't you seek the advice of Mumsnetters? www.Mumsnet.com.

Soutra Wed 18-Feb-15 22:03:13

Does anybody remember a kids' TV programme called "Why don't you?"

Liza, Why don't you go and do something interesting instead?

Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:44:27

I might get him shoe zine ones for £5 think they could be better

Ana Wed 18-Feb-15 21:35:27

Deeda and FarNorth, perhaps you missed this thread:

www.gransnet.com/forums/education/a1213721-School-shoes

Deedaa Wed 18-Feb-15 21:31:10

Daughters of 14 and 15 are quite old enough to have your financial situation explained to them and to understand that you can't always afford things that they want. It won't be that many years before they have to do their own budgeting so now would be a good time to start.

FarNorth Wed 18-Feb-15 21:25:20

Don't buy vans, then. Your daughters will get used to it.

Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:23:32

I know but I can only spend £3 on his school shoes every term

FarNorth Wed 18-Feb-15 21:20:40

It's up to you to buy him decent shoes, not rubbish ones.

Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:17:07

Daughters 15 & 14 will refuse primark ones and tell my son 11 he is cool in primark ones and believes them kids are fine with it it's just other parents judge

soontobe Wed 18-Feb-15 21:15:32

Reported.

tanith Wed 18-Feb-15 21:14:51

Why? why don't you just buy them both the same thing? It only seems fair..

FarNorth Wed 18-Feb-15 21:12:45

Once their vans wear out, you should be buying shoes of medium cost for all your children, I'd have thought.

Why do you think it's okay to buy expensive shoes for your daughters and cheapo ones for your son?

Liza80 Wed 18-Feb-15 21:04:40

How ?