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Forgotten birthday

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SJP Wed 27-May-15 17:09:09

Yet again my 39 year old son has forgotten my birthday. No card, no messsge, no phone call. His girlfriend embarrassed by his behaviour sent flowers which was lovely. Now on his FB page he is posting birthdsy wishes to his cat, am I precious feeling hurt about this

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 27-May-15 17:13:26

I would put a comment on his Facebook page reminding him it is his mother's birthday too. Shame him to his friends.

(Good job I don't do Facebook)

Teetime Wed 27-May-15 17:16:02

That is hurtful SJP I think if it were me I would ask him about it to find out why- and tell him how hurt you are. I hope you did have a good Birthday despite this. flowers

rosesarered Wed 27-May-15 17:16:14

Sorry to hear that SJP.Whatever the circumstances/reasons, a son should not forget his Mother's but at least his girlfriend remembered you.

ginny Wed 27-May-15 17:18:00

Forget his next time but send a card to the cat.

SJP Wed 27-May-15 17:21:18

Like it ginny, might just do that. My birthday has past and thanks it was lovely

thatbags Wed 27-May-15 17:24:49

I like that suggestion too, ginny. grin

AshTree Wed 27-May-15 17:32:40

Oh yes Ginny, perfect! SJP you must report back to us about your son's reaction if you do this grin. He should be ashamed of himself - I hope his girlfriend told him she'd bought you flowers (bless her heart).

HildaW Wed 27-May-15 17:46:49

Oh he is well past subtle hints......I'd ask him (politely and calmly retaining the moral high ground) outright and let him now that you were upset.
P.S. I'm a late May birthday too so feel a certain kindred spirit.

SJP Wed 27-May-15 18:03:33

His birthday is in a few weeks. A pack of Dreamies might be an appropriate gift

Coolgran65 Wed 27-May-15 19:37:49

If son's girlfriend knew it was your birthday and was lovely in sending you flowers, would she have reminded DS? Is DS just too laid back ?

Coolgran65 Wed 27-May-15 19:39:08

And yes. SJP .. I'd also be miffed.

SJP Wed 27-May-15 20:09:35

No just thoughtless. Girlfriend only found out from FB and was mortified

Deedaa Wed 27-May-15 22:18:03

My mother forgot my 14th birthday! She only remembered when the postman arrived with cards and presents from the rest of the family. Naturally she was never allowed to forget it for the next 36 years grin

ninathenana Wed 27-May-15 23:54:16

shock Deedaa

Eloethan Wed 27-May-15 23:57:48

I like ginny 's suggestion smile

grannyactivist Thu 28-May-15 00:31:26

SJP - no you're not being precious in feeling hurt that your son would post birthday wishes to his cat and not to you. It seems to me it was quite a mean thing to do.

Deeda, my mother forgot my 13th birthday - and having forgotten it she gave me two shillings and told me if I was that bothered to go and get myself a card. I was 21 and had left home before I ever had a birthday cake, which was made for me by a friend who was incredulous that I'd never had one before.

ajanela Thu 28-May-15 07:27:31

You don't say if he has apologised or sent you a present since? If so you have to forgive if not I like the idea of sending a card to the cat and maybe a present for the girlfriend. As a person who has difficulty remembering birthdays I signed up to one of the websites that remind me so maybe a subscription to one of those would be a good present for him but maybe he won't fill in the dates!

Iam64 Thu 28-May-15 08:29:52

Empathy for your hurt feelings, but also for his thoughtful girlfriend. Why is that that so many men, especially young men, give themselves permission to ignore emotionally significant events. Why do so many young women assume responsibility for them? (no need to answer, I suspect we all know)

nightowl Thu 28-May-15 08:52:14

Not only young men. When I met my husband 42 years ago he had no idea when his family members' birthdays were. He still doesn't know. My sons are not great at it but then they've not had a very good role model hmm

Iam64 Thu 28-May-15 08:57:36

Yes, fair point night owl.

sparkygran Thu 28-May-15 09:22:58

ginny`s idea is a good one. Belated birthday greetings sjp flowers my youngest son isn`t great with family birthdays and usually has to get a reminder to keep him up to scratch.

Coolgran65 Thu 28-May-15 14:18:49

My ds living abroad gets a reminder email from me for family dates. Ds knows my birthday ok.

However, mother's day is on a different date in his part of the world and (the embarrassment of it ) he has me under instruction to always tell him one month beforehand.

SJP Thu 28-May-15 17:18:03

No apology, or present since and not mentioned when we spoke on in the week. This isn't the first time, he seems perfectly capable of remembering other birthdays such as his sister, his childrens. Also nothing on Mothers day or Christmas.

KatyK Thu 28-May-15 18:42:46

That's sad SJP flowers