Why am I the cat's mother?

Oh my Paula, no need to go off on one as they say. I have my opinion, you have yours but I'm happy to disagree without casting personal aspersions. I reiterate, I am not a dog, cat or any other category of domestic animal therefore I am not a 'mother' to any of these creatures. I am a keeper, carer, guardian and I love my cats very much indeed but mum I am not.

Rather Strident posts from you grandmaPaula1 I think you will find that nobody is 'imposing' simply stating our views on the matter.That is what threads are for.

"We shouldn't be imposing...." It's not your place to decide what we should or not be imposing. Cat lovers can do as they wish. If you don't approve, then to be honest I Think you will find that most won't care what you think.

I may now and then, feel 'I am the cat's whiskers' but never the cat's Mummy, it's a bit cringeworthy.

I wouldn't refer to myself as the cats' mother, and I don't buy them presents, but I do invite them onto 'Mummy's bed' every night.

My two dogs are very much part of our family. We have children and grandchildren but we are also Mummy and Daddy to the dogs! Why should it bother anyone else how we refer to ourselves?!

katek I totally agree with you- as a lifelong animal lover- all mongrels. I don't think anyone could be closer to their pets- but no, they are not my children. And I truly hate cat and dog shows- and dressing animals in human clothes (our adopted dachshund has a coat to protect him from wet and cold of course).

He/she does look v festive in their smart coat!

Ours is like a baby,(crack pot that I am)spoilt rotten,sleeps on the bed.Lays in my arms like a baby.Too bleddy late now.

Well I have 4 'babies', 2 cats and 2 dogs. My eldest dog came from my parents because they could no longer look after him and sadly due to them both being unwell he became neglected. He's a little grumpy old man and we love him dearly; just like Mr. S.

The 2 cats were a birthday pressie from Mr. S. which I received just a few months before our family troubles began. Having their companionship during those desperately sad months helped me get through the lonely days when Mr. S. was at work and I was home alone thinking of what should have been.

The latest arrival, this summer, has bought us both so much happiness that we couldn't imagine our home without him.

I buy them little toys for Christmas, our old dog always finds his under the tree and loves to rip the paper off and when we come back from holiday and bring home from the kennels he always looks expectantly for his gift.

I've bought a new collar for each of our DS's dogs in Aus. for Christmas and even came across 'doggy Christmas' wrapping paper complete with gift tags with the word "woof" printed on them; fabulous.

I don't see it as judgemental Paula....I am not a cat, ergo I am not a cat's mother. Fact, not judgement. All this furkid/babies stuff is part of anthropomorphising animals. They have their own lives-we shouldn't be imposing our human values on them.

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I find it sad that so many of you seem to be very judgemental. Why not concentrate on things that bring you joy rather than criticising people who see their pets as close family members. It's not illegal you know. My little boy, Sox and I wish you all a happy Christmas.

Indigoblue I know exactly how you feel. All our cats have been special, they each have their own character. One of them, Jess, was somehow extra special. She followed me everywhere, talked to me and was always there, a good friend. When she died, 6 years and two days ago, I was heartbroken. There won't be another Jess.

When I visit my friend who adopted a cat earlier this year I am referred to as Aunty Ann. The cat sits on my lap all the time I am there.

Jaxie what a terrific picture! How did you find the artist? Christabel looks to have been a wonderful character.

I have lived with cats and dogs almost all my life and never considered myself to be their owner. They were my companions and I adored each and every one of them. They were part of the family, gave us love, loyalty and so much fun. My daughter and grand-daughter in their turn, learnt to love and respect animals because of them. They were there for me during the worst and best times of my life. Does it matter whether we consider ourselves to be owners or parents? The important thing is that we love them and treat them well. May I please add one thing - when looking for an animal companion, please look at rescue animals first. There are so many out there looking for a good home and believe me, they will repay you with so much love and loyalty. (Sorry to have gone on rather!)

That's exactly how I feel...my cats are friends and very much loved companions, but they are not my children.

When my 17 year old cat died, I felt as if I had lost a good friend, who put up with my quirks (at least most of them). It's been two years and I still miss her. She was a good friend.

I have never got over the death of my cat, Christabel ( see portrait, she was never that fat; artist's licence) . My daughter referred to her as "your furry daughter" which is ridiculous, but she did wind us round her furry paws. What I learned from her is the importance of the natural world, and the need to show respect to animals.

Oh dear, my DD has always been her dog's 'mummy'. This, I know, came about through her yearning to have a child of her own - as time went by she became convinced this would never happen and she filled the gap in her life with her lovely black lab. Then this year her longed-for DD was born, so she really is a mummy now. But the one thing that upset her throughout her pregnancy was the thought of her much-loved dog being pushed out, losing her place in DD's heart. So the dog is still very pampered and loved. And DD is still her mummy

I thought I was at last going to fathom the mystery of those women who, when referred to, correctly, in the third person as 'she' instantly yelp "Who's she? The cat's mother?" But no, that's for another day.

I can remember being vastly entertained by making up dialogue for our pets to be 'saying' - never quite sure why the Cairn Terrier had an Essex accent, but still...

Talking to the cat when it's an irascible 'Mummy' you are really trying to contact is a common technique - Al Read used to do it in his radio shows sometimes - "I don't think Mummy's very happy about something, Puss!"

I used to feel like you Katek, didn't want to be known as my dogs 'mum', but I'm gradually losing the battle. The lovely trainer I work with refers to all the women in our group as their dog's 'mum' and the one chap as his dogs 'dad'. I've found it contagious - I'll never call my dogs fur babies though, draw the line at that. Plus, I'd never suggest to any of the dog walkers I meet regularly on walks as their dogs parents.
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My daughter and son in law have three dogs and until recently they were most definitely their 'babies'. This year, after many years of marriage and reversing a previous decision never to do so, they had a real life actual baby! My daughter's priorities have firmly shifted and she's now a doting mother with her other 'babies' suddenly becoming pets. Not sure about my son in law though.....

Oh they're part of my family as well-just not my children!!

Hmmmm. I have a DGK (dear grandkitten)! Our first cat was formally adopted. He was given to us by a social worker who gave us all the official paperwork for a laugh. However I do regard our cats as friends but also as part of the family. Obviously you'll think I'm daft but we're happy!