I'm a lifelong cat owner, have had dogs in the past, rabbits, ponies and any number of small rodents when the children were young, but I am not -nor ever was - their mum! I find it so annoying when people talk about being their pet's mum or dad or even post FB posts of dogs with their 'baby brothers' (human infants). Do they refer to their pets as their son/daughter as well? I have loved all my animals and my heart is broken when one dies, but I am their owner - not a relation! Too much blurring of the lines.
I agree. In some ways[imo] being a pet's mum or dad is preferable to being their 'owner'.I don't 'own' my dog...she's a much loved companion. I am, however, concerned about the popularity of these toy dogs that people are carrying about like accessories, because even toy dogs need to know that they are dogs. The problem can be when someone does actually have a dog as a baby substitute and then goes on to have a baby; I've known cases where the dog has had to be put down because of it's jealousy of the new baby; something that wouldn't have happened had it been treated as a dog.
Tegan, I think you've hit the nail on the head there. I don't feel I 'own' my dogs any more than I own any of the people I love. Our dog club refers to us either as "trixie's handler" or "trixie's mum/dad" and I can happily live with either. It's my experience that people who share their lives with small dogs seem to make much less effort to encourage good behaviour. If I allowed my huge dog to lunge and bark whenever she saw another dog, I expect I'd soon be admonished. How come that's allowed in the toy breeds then? It's sad that all to often these breeds are dressed up in clothes and their doting humans pick them up if they see another dog coming, thus perpetuating the behaviour. Poor creatures, they're dogs not dolls.
Absent, I will.be thinking of you today. Any of us who have taken the same path, will know how you are grieving for your dear friend. You have given her your last loving service, by releasing her from pain. Mourn her, and give thanks for her long and happy life. Virtual hugs. Leo.