Gransnet forums

AIBU

Phone accident.

(89 Posts)
jinglbellsfrocks Wed 17-Feb-16 22:30:07

Where is his father?

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 17-Feb-16 22:29:20

You can't wash your hands of your kid after nineteen years! hmm

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 17-Feb-16 22:28:16

Yes. Exactly. He is eighteen. He is in turmoil. Has he had a stable background over the last eighteen years? Who knows. Just give him the love and support he desperately needs.

Ana Wed 17-Feb-16 22:22:24

jingl he's nearly 19! And he treats his mum like dirt...hmm

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 17-Feb-16 22:20:21

Well, it depends on how much the excess is. Probably £50 or £100. Still worth a claim. One small claim wouldn't put the premium up. Have a bit of pity on the boy! (And that's what he is. A boy. No way an adult)

Willow500 Wed 17-Feb-16 22:09:31

I wouldn't claim on the house insurance as it will probably a) put the premiums up and b) by the time you've paid the excess there won't be that much left to put towards a phone. It's unacceptable for him to behave this way and really nothing to do with the fact that he should have insured it himself. To speak to you like that is unforgiveable and if you give in what's going to happen the next time something kicks off which annoys him? Once he's calmed down explain why you're so upset and tell him he'll have to find a cheap alternative for the time being until he can afford to get a new one - there are second hand models out there at reasonable prices.

Ana Wed 17-Feb-16 22:00:50

That won't work, felice. He seems to have a sense of entitlement and thinks his mum should pay for everything. He certainly wouldn't accept a cheap replacement and would probably expect an upgrade!

merlotgran Wed 17-Feb-16 22:00:45

What is the excess though?

Sometimes a small claim isn't worth it.

felice Wed 17-Feb-16 21:56:57

Claim on the house insurance, buy him a cheap pre-paid and use the rest for repairs and to treat yourself.
Tell him when he pays the house insurance he can make future claims upon it.

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 17-Feb-16 21:32:20

That's if you are paying for accidental damage of course.

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 17-Feb-16 21:30:36

I think you should claim it off the house insurance.

NanaandGrampy Wed 17-Feb-16 21:19:40

Your son is 18 years old. An adult. His behaviour is beyond acceptable. No, you shouldn't claim for him.

I firmly believe that children don't learn unless there are consequences for their actions and if you bail him out he will have learnt nothing.

I'd wait for a calm moment , explain to him that you won't be doing it and furthermore a repeat of his violence will mean he will not only need a new phone but a new place to live.

If you don't pull him up , he'll only pull the same stunt again or worse. I don't think you're unreasonable at all.

whitewave Wed 17-Feb-16 21:15:08

He obviously has some growing up to do, and as you are the parent you will have to stand firm I think. I certainly wouldn't tolerate the abuse, and would make my displeasure crystal clear.

rubylady Wed 17-Feb-16 21:01:31

My son was walking home last week when he tripped up and fell, breaking his smart phone (not an iphone but it did cost him £250). He was most upset, as would anyone, but he has been insistant that I claim on my house insurance to get him another one.

He had nearly £3,000 last year, in a compensation claim, when he turned 18 years old. He spent it quite recklessly, hence the phone and multiple electric guitars, spending on friends etc. I got a free 9" garlic bread - for my birthday. Nothing else, not even a bunch of flowers. Not that I care really, he can do whatever with it, but he does have to learn to provide for his own future. He could have got his own phone insurance and been sure to have been covered for £1.50 a month. Did he think about it? Not on your nelly!

He got really mad the other night because I wouldn't entertain putting a claim in for his phone, he said I have never claimed on it (true) and isn't that what it is there for? I said no, it is there for big items, or in the event of losing it all, say in a burgarly etc. I said that you have to balance claiming with paying the excess and the increase in premiums it will bring against the cost of the item being claimed. Plus, I told him it should still be under guarantee anyway. Of course, he can't find the box it came in with the appropriate documentation. He has applied to the company and sent pictures (which he used my camera for) and is awaiting a reply.

But, along with getting mad at me, because I wouldn't wave my magic wand and make it all better, he told me he wished I was dead, bashed in the living room door and was generally like a 2 year old having a paddy.

Am I unreasonable not to claim for his phone when he can be so aggressive towards me and verbally abusive and he won't take responsibility for himself or his belongings after getting a lump sum but not covering the phone himself?