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Thank you

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numberplease Sun 28-Aug-16 19:10:48

Yesterday was daughter number 2 and hubby`s wedding anniversary. They only live a 5 minute drive away, so on Friday I took a taxi round there to post the card through their door, asking the driver to wait and bring me back. When I got there, SIL was home on a day off, I said I couldn`t stop because the taxi was waiting. Since then, not a word. Am I unreasonable to have expected a thank you phone call? Or am I being petty?

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 28-Aug-16 19:20:37

Did you forget? grin That seems a rather expensive way of getting a card to them!

I wouldn't worry about them not thanking you yet. Perhaps you could give them a ring and explain about the unusual delivery method and see how they are.

f77ms Sun 28-Aug-16 19:50:18

I wouldn`t expect a thankyou for a card , unless I handed it over directly and they said thanks at the time . Unless of course there was a voucher or something inside ?
I wondered about the taxi too?

Crafting Sun 28-Aug-16 19:52:01

number I wonder if younger people do not realise the significance that cards have for some of us. Growing up in a world of Facebook, mobile phones etc etc. and not being aware of times when telegrams were once the quickest way of getting a message to someone, I don't think cards count so much to them. Also, your SIL might not have mentioned that you called round with the card. Perhaps they were out celebrating.

willsmadnan Sun 28-Aug-16 20:21:34

A taxi to deliver a card does seem extreme, especially as you live in the same post code area ( I presume). I would expect a card to be deliverd in 24 hours. There are websites you can log onto who will do a next day guaranteed delivery and you can choose the card without leaving the house.... great service if you are housebound, or just like me ... disorganised / forgetful! They even send you reminders!! Much cheaper than a taxi. And as Crafting said, today's generation aren't as tuned in to cards as their parents. I email greetings these days ... even most of my Christmas cards, unless I know a particular friend isn't into the technology. It's hard to accept I know, but that's the way it goes in the 21st century I'm afraid.

numberplease Sun 28-Aug-16 21:17:58

I`d had the card for 2 weeks so I hadn`t forgotten, I just forgot that our only postal collection is at 9am, was thinking there was a later collection, so if I`d posted it they wouldn`t have got it till at least tomorrow.

numberplease Sun 28-Aug-16 21:21:01

Also my daughter does set great store by cards, whatever the occasion, she gets very miffed if anyone forgets. I always ring to thank people for birthday or anniversary cards, not Christmas ones though.

rosesarered Sun 28-Aug-16 21:38:29

number don't feel too bad about it.....none of mine say thanks for an anniversary card, thought I expect they like to receive it.It's a generational thing.They do thank for any present on birthdays and Christmas.

rosesarered Sun 28-Aug-16 21:38:49

Generational thing!

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 28-Aug-16 21:40:57

Am I the only one who never sends wedding anniversary cards? I know which month DD got married in, but the actual date? Haven't a clue.

Bad mother.

M0nica Sun 28-Aug-16 21:42:00

Your DD gets miffed if any one forgets to send her a card?

M0nica Sun 28-Aug-16 21:42:35

or perhaps it should have been '!' not '?'

Penstemmon Sun 28-Aug-16 21:54:15

Oh it is my DD1 anniversary today..just remembered! Bank Holiday weekend..however as they are away on holiday I will not bother with a card!! I will pop over to FB and send some daft message x
Re a thank I do not expect a swift tank you ..maybe when I saw someone next I would say thanks for the card but I would not call specially.

Tegan Sun 28-Aug-16 22:01:03

You and me both jingle....[hangs head in shame]...

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 28-Aug-16 22:02:57

She never seems to mind, but I feel so guilty every year when I visit and there amongst their other cards is a very loving sounding one from her in laws! blush

PRINTMISS Mon 29-Aug-16 08:09:57

It is the thought that counts, not the response. I like to remember special occasions when I can, but never expect someone to thank me for a card!

Pamaga Mon 29-Aug-16 08:14:07

It seems extravagant to take a taxi to post a card so am assuming there was money/voucher inside? I wouldn't particularly expect a thank you for a card except at the time I handed it over personally but I would expect one for a gift. Some people take forever to get round to sending a thank you note which makes you think you're pretty low on their list of priorities!

Antonia Mon 29-Aug-16 08:35:47

I wouldn't be upset about not being thanked for a card, but it does greatly irritate me when I don't get thanks for a gift. In recent years I have made this pretty clear; perhaps too clear, so I generally get a thank you now for presents to the grandchildren. To me it's only good manners to say thank you, and I was so pleased to see on my DGS's birthday that my SIL was noting which presents had come from which family so that my DGS could write his thank you notes.

mags1234 Mon 29-Aug-16 08:46:15

My pet hate, especially in the days of free texts is no thanks you or even acknowledgement of a gifts arrival. Tho words, thank you, would do! I've stopped sending gifts abroad cos they never ever even said they d come!

jenpax Mon 29-Aug-16 08:46:21

I must say that I have never expected a thank you for a card and only thank others when I see them or if we happen to speak on the phone. It must be a generation thing as my ex husbands aunt (late 80's) set great store by cards, I am not much of a card giver myself and never have been, although I still like a post card even though I do most of my stuff online now!

suzied Mon 29-Aug-16 08:48:25

I wouldn't expect a special thank you for sending a card. Mind you, I wouldn't send a card for a wedding anniversary ( after the 1st one or a special one) I also wouldn't take it round by taxi. But, that was your choice, and I think maybe YABU to expect an immediate thank you .

f77ms Mon 29-Aug-16 08:48:37

It annoys me when I don`t get any acknowledgement for the thoughtful presents I buy for certain family members . It almost wants me to not bother in the future but of course I do .
I resist the urge to ask if they got my present lol.

janeayressister Mon 29-Aug-16 08:51:20

i don't think you can expect anything. Then you are not disappointed. I have given large amounts of money to my lot and not got thanked profusely. I know they are all grateful though.

My husband wisely says, whatever you give, once it has left your hands, that is it. It was our choice to give it and we had a choice.

Never mention presents or money that you have given ever again. My Father gave us some money and then banged on about it at every opportunity for years. I offered it back to him in in the end.
It was choice to get a taxi and go to those lengths, you had a choice.....sorry, as you sound like a kind generous person.

Anya Mon 29-Aug-16 09:04:08

No, wouldn't expect a thank you for a card.

sarahellenwhitney Mon 29-Aug-16 09:19:50

The method of making sure family get your card is really no one else's business and your choice.

Don't dwell too much on why you haven't received a thank you
but next time you speak to your family casually and making light of it say 'glad you got my card nothing like personal delivery is there.'

People these days do not seem to have the same values as in the past.