We were invited to our next door neighbour's \Secret' party to celebrate their wedding anniversary and his 60th .......I was surprised to receive an invite from their friend who was organising the party ...along with a request to place money in an envelope which would be deposited in a box in the hall on the day ! We are pensioners ourselves (UK pension, worst in Europe) but a donation of at least 40 euros was the acceptable minimum .....quandary ....we like our neighbours, they are very helpful and friendly, what to do ? In the end we did put 40 euros into the envelope ......we were told apparently this is normal in France ! (ok ....so I am waiting for my birthday .....ha ha !)
Never heard of it before in the UK though ...except for maybe a 21st or a wedding, which is acceptable ...when I married the first time I got 6 identical sets of ceramic soup bowls in an awful colour and very little off the 'wedding list' ...certainly no money, washing machines, fridge freezers, that seem to be on lists nowadays ....I know money is tight, but our first fridge was 50p from the Scout jumble sale ......