I do feel for you MarySunshine... it is hard when you feel left out. I have 5 children, four grown up, three with children. Lat year, although I saw #1 and #2 DDs, but they spent the main part of the day with their respective inlaws. I was with my aged mother, my 13 year old son and my brother. I was dreading it, but it was fine... and it was nice for me and my son to come home when we wanted and just chill in front of the tv. This year, my eldest DD has invited us all to hers.... it'll be manic! My other children live on the mainland - I am on a rock in the Atlantic, off the Cornish coast!! - so didn't see my elder DS or my youngest DD. But, you know, Christmas is only one day.... but the Christmas season is much longer. Don't tie yourself up in knots... have a wonderful time with the family on Christmas Eve, go to midnight mass, sing carols and drink sherry!! On Christmas day, treat yourself.... sit and eat and drink whatever you want to, go for a walk. See if any of your friends are on their own and maybe meet up with them. Say to your son, that NEXT year (when your DGC will be more into Christmas) you would like to prebook the day with them Can you bag the spare room? and maybe your DILs parents - if they are still going - can get a taxi home day and you can (if you want) as it will be YOUR turn!!
Please don't be sad.... xx