My brother and I are not particularly close. Both our parents were only children and I guess they just didn´t know how to encourage the bond between us. In addition my mother suffered from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and claimed to be unable to look after us both, so my brother was mainly brought up by relatives. Also, because of her NPD, mother liked to drive us apart, telling each of us in turn nasty things about the other. For many years my brother and I had minimal contact but in recent years (we are both in our 60s now), having learned and understood about my mother´s disorder, I resumed contact with him. It is still very one sided, but he does answer occasionally and we do feel some affection for each other. He is very close to his wife´s family, as I am to my husband´s siblings. I myself have two children and because of my own experience have encouraged them to look out for each other. They are now grown up and are very close, though my daughter is the one to initiate most of the contact, I think that´s just the way women are. They live in different countries and communicate mainly through the social media but we do all meet up for Christmas and for other family occasions. They don´t necessarily have to live in and out of each other´s pockets to feel close and I would hope that when they get older, as the pressures of work and family ease up, they will find more actual time for each other. After all, we all remember childhood very vividly throughout our lives, and your siblings are the only ones you can share those experiences with.