Am I being silly?

Is it that she never stops talking when you get there? Is this because you are her main conversation of the week? Perhaps it's not her being uninterested in you, perhaps it's just an outpouring of what she wants to say, but has no-one to say it to?

You should put yourself first but maybe your friend needs some counselling, loneliness can affect people

You are certainly not being selfish ...quite the opposite ! After my cataract op I was not allowed to drive for a couple of weeks (had lv in one eye as well).....if you drive to see her you have to tell her you will not be coming until the hospital tells you it would be safe to drive ! I know you will be feeling guilty, but there is no need ..you must think of yourself for a while. Once your friend realises you are not going to back down hopefully she will apologise IF she realises how her actions make you feel .....doesn't sound much like a true friend if she never asks you how you are, and especially did not say good luck for your op ! She sound too young for her not to be working and asking her daughter for money ...unless she is disabled and unable to work ...she should find out what benefits she may be entitled to claim which she is not getting ...at that age I suppose she will have to be 'signing on' and looking for work ..unless the DSS have stopped her benefits if she is not complying with their rules !

Very good luck for the op ...you will really notice the difference ...as others have said, it is over so quickly you wonder what you were worried about ! Bon courage

Don't worry about the cataract operation!! I have had both my eyes treated and it is painless. (Not on the same day.) And uneventful. You won't be able to drive home as your eyesight might be a bit blurry but that soon clears up. And I suggest that you don't rush to become your friend's right hand again!!!!!!!

Don't worry about the operation ,you won't feel a thing. You have drops to numb the eye,no pain or discomfort.

hi angie, hope the op went well. when you are sufficiently recovered to post on here again, i'm hoping to hear that your friend sent you a card and a bouquet of flowers or pot plant ~ perhaps a box of chocolates. if not, PLEASE send her a brief note saying you think they got lost in the post! plus, as hooty mcowlface and others suggest, let her know which day would be good for her to pop round with a light lunch and her cheery encouragement in your "hour of need".
but maybe you're going to tell us all that the reason you were helping her out so much was that she'd had a double amputation and is unable to walk to visit you? remind her she needs the help of the cab if she's genuinely struggling with finances, but in my experience the people who complain most tend to have more money than those they're complaining to.