.. to feel uncomfortable bout this book loan ..

Well my first thought was "yuk" devongirl but then I thought about it a bit more....

If your OH was happy for you to read it first, he couldn't have thought there was anything untoward about it could he?
If you DD is the literary type she will be used to all kinds of writing won't she so probably not phased at all by descriptions of explicit sexual encounters and at 24 she is a grown woman after all (not as though she's 17).

My DH doesn't read (unless you count engineering manuals) so can't compare in (my) real life I'm afraid.

If you feel uncomfortable maybe you should tell your OH that you don't think it was an appropriate book to lend out? I'm not sure.

P.S I'm looking for a good book to read if you feel like passing on the title.

I can understand your thoughts on this, but your GD is 24 not 14, and also has an English Literature degree.
She will have read everything going by now, and will not be shocked in the way you may imagine.
Just because your OH is 66 years old and is in fact like a grandfather to her, will not make your GD think of him any differently.
Just lend her the book and let her enjoy what you describe as a beautifully written novella.

I lent a really good book to my male boss once, forgetting a particular steamy scene. It gave me a moments discomfort when I remembered, but then saw the funny side. We did discuss the book but not that scene.

Can't see any problem myself.

Quite a difficult one Devongirl! My first thought was I'm sure she's read similar things before but your other half is not related to her. I don't think you're being prude I'd be tempted not to pass it on perhaps say you've lent it out to a friend and discreetly ''lose'' it.

I would feel a bit awkward about it too - though I accept that perhaps that's the product of having fairly inhibited (though not narrow minded) parents.

I agree with grannysue you cannot censor your adult daughter's reading material.

I agree that there is no reason that she should not read the book especially with a Lit degree, that wasn't really the point.

It's more that it had come from him and contained very intimate stuff that I just don't feel comfortable with her reading that from a man who is (a) so much older than her and (b) is a family friend. It does make me feel yuk.

I'm sure it sounds a bit extreme but I don't want her to feel uncomfortable with him, either.

If it was me I would say "Just to warn you it's a bit steamy in places but I've read it and it's a well written book" in a light hearted way, therefore leaving it up to her, which is as it should be at her age.
I don't think the fact that it's your OH offering it to her is relevant personally but were all different.

I should have said, DD is living at home at present and OH visits every Saturday

Does she need to know it is coming from him? Can't you say you have read a book you think she may like, it does have some steamy sections and would she like it. Then leave it up to her. Is he likely to question her about the book after she has read it?

I should also add that he's 'a man of the cloth'

It's a book not a proposition.

She could as easily get the same book from the shelf of the library or in a charity shop. I agree with Nina on how to broach it but I wouldn't be worried in the least .

Sorry but obviusly I haven't made myself clear - I would not be in the slightest borhtered by her getting the book form a library, a shop, online, whatever!

Good grief. Some highly respected authors have written explicit stuff. DH Lawrence, Anaıs Nin, Roald Dahl. She's 24 !! No-one should censor her reading matter.

I'm not trying to censor her reading matter!!!!

I reiterate she is perfectly free to read this book, I have no problem with that.

Ps. A friend is a respected church elder and uni lecturer whose favourite reading includes Robert Burns' bawdiest!

Is it your DD or your DGD?
If your DD then don't worry about it, but it would seem a bit off to give tge book to a DGD I think.

Yes, I think YABU.
Do you have doubts about your OH?

Something is obviously making you feel uneasy about this - I`m just wondering if anything else has happened which has sounded some alarm bells with you.

I'm not sure what it is, TBH. I definitely feel v. uncomfortable. It feels altogether too personal, not just sex.

Does he make a habit of lending books to her or is this a one-off?

Sorry, you do say you frequently swap books, but I'm not clear whether there is regular book swapping between the two of them.