My youngest son (19) who lives with me, split up with his first serious girlfriend (19) of 6 months. A week later she came over to announce her pregnancy. She has had two previous terminations with ex boyfriends, and my son felt very strongly that he did not want to be a father at his age, and due to difficulties with her lack of accommodation and having no employment, she shouldn't continue with the pregnancy. Shes decided to keep it, and got a new boyfriend a couple of weeks later.
My son has fallen to pieces over the situation, tried to get back with her but she's moved on, he's now thrown himself into his pot habit and lost his job. He's wavering between not seeing the baby (due in a few of months, and assuming she will let him), and being a part time dad. Hopefully one that is clean and in work!
My dilemma is what my role should be. I liked the girl, despite her troubled past and reluctance to work, and have said that whatever my sons role in the baby's future, our family will support it financially. If he wants nothing to do with his child, if the mother is willing, can I be an involved Gran?