I ve never used a bidet or ever been in a bathroom with one I ve never felt dirty I shower every morning as a definite and if I felt the need would shower at night too
I ve got nothing against bidets just lived fine without one blimey I grew up without a bathroom but was never dirty
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(111 Posts)I intend coming back to the UK in the short term, after almost 50 years of living in places where bidets in bathrooms are the norm. It would be fair to say that the lack of a bidet would be one of the things that I would mind most upon my return. Why are people in the UK so against them? Should you have one, you would be considered a tremendous snob -is what I'm told. I know you can buy them in the UK: I've seen them in the shops, but I have never seen one anywhere in an actual bathroom. I visited a most luxurious one recently, on my latest visit to the UK, but there was no bidet. They are soooo useful. Fantastic footbaths or for leaving smalls overnight. I use mine to quickly disinfect washable shoes too. I use it both for its natural purpose and to rinse my feet, before I step into a luxurious bath. My bidet also gives me so much self confidence in hot weather. Most of all, it was essential prior to the menopause (one problem less, thankfully). Wetwipes just aren't the same and also risk blocking the sewer, even if they are called "disposable".
Yes I have just found on line, sprays that give a narrow flow for use on the toilet - either a bottle with either hand squeeze or electric control, (small and easily portable for travelling) or ones that can be permanently connected to the bath or sink tap, with a lever to change water flow between the spray or the tap. It can be clipped onto a hook hanging from the cistern when not in use.
A solution to some of the bidet uses is a hand sprayer which can be plumbed into pipe to cistern. www.the-vu.com/2010/12/wash-don%E2%80%99t-wipe-your-butt/
My husband put one in and though I was dubious at first I find it useful, especially as like starbird I have piles. It saves on toilet paper (important with a septic tank) as only needed for quick dry off.
No good for washing feet but handy for watering plants in bathroom!
Shysal. brilliant solution, thanks
I have piles and frankly have to use running water to feel clean after defecating. Also in spite of my best efforts to eat roughage, due to a sluggish system, I cannot always poo first thing in the morning, neither do I have a shower every day (waste of water I shower and wash my hair every third day). so I may be fully dressed before going to the loo and it is therefore not practical to use the shower to wash afterwards.
I sometimes use a small jug or empty water bottle to simulate a bidet but often make the floor wet! I find it quite difficult when staying away from home - I usually resort to baby wet wipes, then wash them in hot water in the basin before squeezing out and putting in the rubbish, followed by a good hand wash! . I would love a bidet, but bathroom's not big enough.
My first sight of a bidet was in a old hotel in Nice. It was slap dab in the middle of the room facing two single beds. Room enough to walk around it. I was 19 and on a group tour of Europe with one of my high school friends. To say the least it made my imagination soar!
The rest of the facilities were down the hall.
I have an original Roca Spanish bathroom with bidet, from 1973 when the house was built. It got used for the usual purposes, but the very best thing about a bidet is the absolute bliss of sitting with your undercarriage in warm water when you are suffering from cystitis, without having to fill a bath.
I`ve only ever used a bidet on one Spanish holiday in the mid 80s, have never been anywhere with one since then, but would love one if my bathroom was bigger.
Greyduster that's off my shopping list then! I didn't realise they were that costly.
Hello, Beau!
I use loo roll to dry off, no need for flannels or towels.
Lemongrove, we do have room for a bidet, that was the annoying thing for me. And yes, of course, we manage fine without a bidet, but it's just one of those things that some people think is nice to have.
Our house was built in the 80's and the owner had a bidet included in the en suite. Once we bought the house and moved in, I soon learnt that a bidet is a useful and practical piece of equipment.
When we modernised our en suite recently, I insisted that we had another bidet. We found it very difficult to source and the local firm supplying the fittings said they couldn't find one, although they managed in the end. The en suite is small but there is just room for the bidet between the toilet and the shower (the shower has an inward opening bi-fold door to maximise the space). Where there's a will, there's a way!
Tbh I managed periods just fine without a bidet, and these days do feel fresh all day after a shower, but on very hot days ( rare) a cool shower before bedtime is lovely.We have an overhead fixed head shower and a lower, moveable one, so can shower without shampooing when needed.
If you have the space, then have a bidet, but most people like a bathroom with a bath, a shower cubicle, washbasin and cupboards and a toilet, and rarely have space for more.
We had one in the bathroom in a house we lived in abroad. I liked it and have always wished we had room for one since, but most British bathrooms just aren't big enough. We are currently in the process of having a new bathroom with a hand showering facility combined with the rain shower. I hope this will not only be useful for rinsing one's hair!
sue donim I have a disabled relative who has one of those all singing all dancing toilets - it cost about five thousand pounds ?!
grannyknot we stayed in a holiday cottage last week where two of he bathrooms had those multijet showers - we couldn't work out how to turn it on!
I'm new so this is my first post - strange subject for a first post! I know exactly why I never use them in hotels and it might be a clue why I have never wanted one at home - I find the idea of a flannel and/or towel just for my 'undercarriage' too unhygienic, in that it would have to go straight into the washing machine each time it was used. Not a problem at home as I live alone but that's what I don't understand about bidets - the logistics in a household with more than one person. I use the moist wipes so in theory a bidet would be cheaper as well, I just don't know how to use one. My chiropodist uses one as a footpath which always makes me chuckle ☺️
I have had them in some of my homes over the years, they used to be popular in Spain and you saw them in all bathrooms. Only just occurred to me that i haven'
t seen one for years (Have to say I had it taken out in my last house as the bathroom was minute! )
We have one as we had space but like a previous comment people are reluctant to bother fit them. So silly not to have them as the norm I think as like other extras they are sooo useful for many reasons.
We had a bidet for many years and it was used for all sorts of things, including washing a puppy!
This year we had our bathroom refurbished and I was persuaded to not have a bidet by the sales rep, because 'no one has one these days'. Our new bathroom is lovely, but I very much miss the bidet, and I wish I'd stuck to my own instincts. 
People who say they use the shower instead, imo, a bidet isn't a replacement for a shower, it's in addition. We only have an over-the-bath shower, in any case, and the bidet was brilliant for a quick freshen up which takes two minutes.
I'm now thinking about getting one of those fancy toilet seats that washes your 'necessaries' with warm water and air dries.
I loved it then.
We have a bidet in our bathroom. I don't use it know as often as I used to when I was menstruating. Unloved it then! I still use it occasionally, but it mostly sits there with the bathroom spray and a cleaning cloth in it.?
The absence of a seat makes the task less comfortable than it could be.
lemongrove - that 's precisely the drag of not having a bidet. We all shower in the morning. It's staying (and feeling) fresh, especially when it is hot, or when a youger woman has the curse, that makes the difference.
Only ever had a bathroom with one in once, a long time ago, yes, useful then, not so much now, We just shower every morning.Nobody will think you a snob if you have one put in, just don't think they are all that popular in the UK.Recently stayed at a very swish hotel with a huge bathroom, but it didn't have one.
Grannyknot ... I LOVE the expression "undercarriage[]
We recently had our en-suite refitted by a local firm who told us they could not supply a bidet as 'there was no call for them these days'. I was determined to have one so DH located one easily enough on the internet and it was delivered. The fitters had no problem installing it even though our bathroom is not big and also has a sloping roof. I am so glad we persevered as the bidet is brilliant and I would not be without it. I should add that we do use it for its intended purpose!
I do notice that "wetrooms" seem to be the new thing. What are they? Somewhere to jump up and down while the shower water gets hot enough? I think a bidet would be much more useful in the same space.
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