I am a very open book and have learnt over the years that you can usually say what you want, when you want, as long as it does not unfairly offend. Being calmly direct usually clears up many situations, as everyone knows exactly what they are dealing with. There have been many unkind and unnecessary harsh comments here over the year, and I have often wondered why some women feel the need for such destructive criticism, instead of constructive advice. We all make mistakes, most wish they could turn the clock back and re address the past, however we can’t, so it’s all about life’s learning curves and finding a way forward, supporting each other with our wealth of life experiences. We should not be afraid of speaking out for fear of being verbally assaulted. Keep your words sweet, one day you may have to eat them !!