Background: married 36yrs, 2 children one married one still at home (in their 20's). When I had my first child I stepped down from my career at the time to do the majority of childcare with a view to returning asap. My OH at the time considered his career more important despite no intentions of moving up the ladder. Anyway move on to present day and we are living like separate people. He is retiring on company pension at end of this year, I still have 7 years to go before I get my state pension. I stepped down a couple of grades when had first child then got made redundant so no pension. I have found out that he had opened accounts with our children to "hide" £s from the taxmen but think he is hiding money so that should something happen to him I can't get it! He pays mortgage, bills and food I top up with my part time money and the rest of my income keeps me in clothes, pays for my vehicle etc. He takes home 10x what I do and hides £s bit I don't know how much or where. We get a cheque from his parents once a year from bonus' but I never get any of it or know what he does with it. I want to leave as I spend most evenings/weekends alone but am not in a strong financial position. I think this latest idea is more about stopping me getting my hands on any money should anything happen to him/us AIBU?
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024