Those that lend, lend and lend again are making a rod for their own backs.
Either take steps to ensure your own financial, and emotional, wellbeing, or accept the obvious fate that awaits you, as many here have alluded to.
I looked at Equity Release with a view to recommending it to a neighbour, whose days are taken up borrowing fivers and tenner's from neighbours each week to fulfil her needs, including cigarettes and keeping a number of dogs.
She pays it back and then repeats the cycle.
She owns her own home but wants to leave it to Dogs charities. No helping some people.
After seeing the way Equity Release works I wouldn't touch it with a barge pole.
Others have said already about the speed the interest accrues and in no time the Lender will own the home though you are allowed to use it until it is time to go underground or be turned into ashes.
Far better to downsize, and as one poster says it will be better to rent so that YOUR money is free to enhance the quality of YOUR life.
As has been said, our kids expect and expect.
2 car families, designer clothes, keeping up with the jones's etc.
Financial stress is horrible. Been there, done it.
I will, have, helped mine out in the past. Cant see me doing it again, though I will be helping out my GC when they reach adult life.
Your futures are in your own hands. How it pans out with your families is entirely up to you.