It is, mostlyharmless.
I promise it’s not me that’s the trouble, I get on fine with absolutely everyone else....!
MIL is definitely not the president of my fan club but I remain always polite and affable and she sees H and the GC frequently. I don’t and wouldn't get in the way of that.
Honestly, and I know this sounds pathetic coming from a grown woman, I’ve always wished so much that MIL would like me because by god, I could use a mum figure to give me a hug and a cup of tea now and then.
I don’t have skills at enforcing family boundaries, although I have worked on it.
Again, this is something that I can only admit pseudonymously, but sometimes I see other folk out with their kids and the grannies and I think, I try so hard with mum and MIL, am I really that awful?
Neither of them wants to ‘share’, they both want to be the only granny and the only mum, and that tension has been really awful for me and H to negotiate.
Mum can see my house from hers and she keeps a notebook of times I come and go and of any cars who visit, so she is actively monitoring the ILs’ visits. Her reaction is... not positive, to be blunt. One of the huge advantages of this move is that I will have privacy about my comings and goings and any visitors we get. Honestly my stress levels about ILs visiting will be lower when mum is not walking her dogs back and forth past our street and looking in the windows whilst they are there.
I desperately wish MIL and I had a decent relationship, but what strife she has with me I can handle. Nothing is overly dramatic as long as I don’t interfere with her access to her son and grandchildren, which I don’t. I don’t have a third party to put between me and mum though.
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