This school has banned pencil cases

So you have never rewarded yourself with a little biscuit or a slice of cake ? hmm

Not daily, no.
A treat isnt a treat if its every day..

A healthy lunch can include a small chocolate bar/biscuit/packet of crisps/ slice of cake etc.

Your’re a saint notanan2

It can, as an ocassional treat. As a daily habit, no thats not healthy.

Your’re a saint notanan2
Im not
I treat myself
Its not a treat if its all the time!

I treat my kids, nothing is banned (allergies aside). But crisps and chocolates are really not necessary at every meal!!

A daily habit ? I’m talking about a tiny chocolate bar, a few crisps or a little cake not 20 ciggies and a swig of vodka !

I give up .

Who said every meal ?

its perfectly feasable for kids to have an enjoyable filling lunch that does not include chocolate or crisps!

there's no "punishment" in not having chocolate at school.

Who said every meal ?

so does that mean that you do agree that kids can enjoy a lunch that doesnt include chocolate or crisps?

plus gillybob you were the one who called me a saint for not eating chocolate every day ......

nor is there any punishment in waiting until after school to play swopsies or enjoy their smiggle hoard or whatever.....

what hardship is there in waiting until home time for that?

Of course they can. Mine do, as they are not really chocolate/biscuit fans anyway . They would all prefer extra carrot sticks with humous, or a small orange etc.

The point I have been trying to make (badly obviously) is that a small chocolate bar or similar will do not harm at all to the child who has already had a decent sandwich, fruit etc.

My 2 youngest grandchildren’s school is so far away from home ( not by choice) that this would not be possible .

I think you’ll find I said .... small chocolate bar, biscuit, packet of crisps, slice of cake etc.

I suppose you could include a glass of wine ( not appropriate for school lunch boxes though)

The point I have been trying to make (badly obviously) is that a small chocolate bar or similar will do not harm at all to the child who has already had a decent sandwich, fruit etc.

my point is that not having a choc bar does them no harm!

Mine went to an out of area school for a bit, playdates and sleepovers stil happened.

I think you’ll find I said .... small chocolate bar, biscuit, packet of crisps, slice of cake etc.

still not neccessary for an enjoyable filling lunch.
And a lunch without the above is not a "punishment"

Mine live miles away from school . My DiL and son both work full time and have 3 children in 2 different schools in different areas . I do a lot of child care so almost impossible to do without a lot of forward planning .

So Johnny is allowed marsbars but Tommy isnt? That'll go down well....
That is a non-sequitur nonanan

Johnny's parents or carers presumably have sent him with a healthy sandwich, some healthy fruit and perhaps a mini-chocolate bar or granola bar or small biscuit.

All Tommy has got in his lunch box is a Mars bar.

I didn’t say it was “necessary” did I ?
Mine wouldn’t be bothered if they never saw chocolate again .

Your wasting your time Jalima I have tried to say that already .

Poor Tommy, poor Johnny .

how feasable to you think an "ocassional chocolate" policy would be?

who would be expected to track all kids lunches to differentiate betweeb the ocassional chocolate treats and the daily ones?

The policy hurts noone, and helps those that need it.

My DC had sandwiches, fruit plus a cereal bar or similar in their lunch boxes - in fact a 'healthy granola bar' is probably just as high in sugar as a biscuit.
It was difficult to fill DS up and he was always skinny as a rake.

The difference was that there was no iPads etc in those days so my DC were always outside playing, or playing sport, weather permitting.

Jali I cant imagine you have much experience with engaging the type of families who would do that with services if you dont see that that is exactly the reply you would get from them!

in fact a 'healthy granola bar' is probably just as high in sugar as a biscuit.

agree. Same for fruit bars tbh..

*So Johnny is allowed marsbars but Tommy isnt? That'll go down well....
That is a non-sequitur nonanan*

its what Tommys parents would say, along with "singling him out" and all other kinds of defensiveness.

A no chocolate policy gives schools the tools to engage with Tommys parents without hitting a brick wall.

& there are a lot of Tommys