I have many friends who expect a card on mother’s day from their grandchildren-it’s absurd.
If that’s how it goes, all female relatives should get one then.
Old meg a lot has changed since your day....
Although my daughter had to go back to work after 2 months since she was self employed, so nothing princessy about the women of today either. I think to tar all young mothers with the same brush is unfair.
To the OP, I don’t know why you expect so much from this young family. Surely you do everything you have done because you can and because you want to, out of love, NOT because you are waiting for gifts in return.
Your son acknowledged mother’s day, he sent you a text. DIL isn’t your daughter, I’m sure she says thank you when you do nice things for them. It’s all very petty to get your knickers in a twist about a silly commercialised holiday and not receiving a card. Go ahead and stop giving support and doing nice things, then when they are confused and ask you further down the line what has gone wrong, you can tell them it’s all because you didn’t get a Mother’s Day card or gift and then we’ll see what happens.....