Hurt and feeling unappreciated

I too didn't receive anything from one of my sons and his wife. It hurt really badly. I have given them so much support, both financially and with childcare, so it was a real kick in the teeth. It's not about material things. Flowers cost a fortune at that time of year, so I wouldn't want them spending money and being ripped off. But a text/phone call - is that really too much to ask for?

AmMaz

You said "we don't know how much subtle pressure he got from his wife (and her mum) that you had to be displaced as THE mother of the moment" - which certainly conjures up a picture of two conniving women getting OP's darling son to dial down his appreciation of his DM. I've never known any intelligent human beings who see life like this so I have no dog in this fight - apart from thinking it's a load of over sensitivity to expect bells and whistles from a new family just because Clinton Cards et al are invested in Mother's Day. I think the DS did well to text.

Could your husband have a quiet word with your son perhaps. Something like - "you know Mother's Day can be quite important to women, could you perhaps buy a card or small gift, you know how much she does for all of us".

I do a lot for my adult DCs. They thank me at the time and very occasionally give me a little gift or card, usually not on a 'special' day of any kind.
I'm happy with that and wouldn't dream of sulking because they don't get in touch on any particular day.

blimey get a grip. 100 years ago it meant something, not now.

GabriellaG - why would OP buy herself a flashy item and lie that it was from her DD? Read the OP - her DD bought her a 'beautiful' gift.
Good to read that so many posters don't give to receive and don't expect more than thanks for what they do for their families.

Some people have been a bit rude here in how they voiced their views. There are nice ways to say things.

I know this is an old thread but found it looking for something else.

My husband never gets his mum anything for mother's day. hasn't since he was about 16. He loves her, but he says they don't really have anything to celebrate. Their relationship is quite formal.

My sisters and I love making a fuss of our mum though as she does a lot for us, we regular chat, go shopping etc.

As for me and MIL, I've never bought her a gift. She isn't my mum. On Mother's day I spoil my mum. We could be the world's best friends and I still wouldn't, that's my mums day for my attention.