The way millions behave in public, no rules of the game needed to invite family to a wedding, for divorced parents to walk together , not hypocrisy to behave with dignity in public even if you really want to batter hell out of each other, it’s what many do, grit their teeth and get on with it, it must be unerving knowing the world and it’s dog is watching but it is only for a few hours . I am sure Francis Shand Kyde hated Charles Spencer but she walked into church with him , sat wuth him through the service, stood on the balcony for a few minutes, the world doesn’t see the rest