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Emm14 Mon 23-Jul-18 23:26:07

Hi ladies. My son and his wife and baby recently moved to new rental and I have planned to visit him this weekend and stay. However, my daughter tells me the house is disgustingly filthy and there are cockroaches. I am completely freaked out as I have a phobia of cockroaches. I’ve told me son I can’t stay and will find a motel near by but he thinks I am overreacting. Tells me he has only seen a couple of cockroaches and he has killed them. My grandson is at crawling stage and I am so upset he is living in that environment. What can I do ladies? AIBU in my reaction?

Millie8 Tue 24-Jul-18 12:04:37

I dont know if anyone has suggested this but i think you should contact the council asap. Even if its a private rental, they have a duty to ensure homes are appropriate especially as there is a baby involved. Good luck.

sweetpea Tue 24-Jul-18 12:28:17

When we bought our house and moved in, some four years ago, the place was clean but hopping with fleas! Must have spent a fortune on 'remedies' but in the end called in a fumigating company. That did the trick! They arrived in an unmarked van with all their gear, we just had to decamp elsewhere (we went to the cinema), when we got back some three hours later, everything was back in place and we havn't seen a flea since.

I would think your son and DIL should contact whoever they rented from in the first instance, if no luck with them, the local authority if in UK.

And no, you are not being unreasonable in thinking to stay elsewhere for your visit, as other posters have said, maybe invite them to join you or look after your GC while son and DIL have a cleaning purge.

Good luck. 🙂

Jalima1108 Tue 24-Jul-18 12:49:26

As others have said, perhaps get them to come and stay with you at the hotel and get the place fumigated or persuade your son to use an insect bomb and clean the place out thoroughly before you, your DIL and the baby return to it.

I've seen lots of the little critters in Australia and still hate them - they scuttle so quickly!

GrannyHaggis Tue 24-Jul-18 13:16:30

To get rid of cockroaches the place really needs to be fumigated to make sure they've all gone. But as it's a rental property that's the responsibility of the landlord not the tenants. I think I'd be asking for a rent rebate as well!!

vickymeldrew Tue 24-Jul-18 13:39:42

Landlord’s responsibility. No question.

Jalima1108 Tue 24-Jul-18 13:42:24

rental yes definitely the landlord's responsibility.

OldMeg Tue 24-Jul-18 13:45:48

Cockroaches can also come in from neighbouring properties especially if ‘attached’ to their rental.

OldMeg Tue 24-Jul-18 13:46:10

I’m itching reading this 😬

Marilii Tue 24-Jul-18 14:54:08

I live in the U.S. When I got married back in 1974 my husband and I moved into a small cottage on our college campus. I had never ever seen a cockroach before. Didn't even know about them. Imagine my horror when I opened up a kitchen drawer to put silverware into it - and bugs with wings began running out of the drawer, onto the countertops..... everywhere. I screamed! DH came running and began laughing when he realized I was freaking out over roaches. He then told me that every place has them and that they are just a way of life when one lives in a warmer climate. Well, they were NOT going to be a "way of life" for me. With much trial and error, I eventually discovered that any kitchen cleaner which has a good amount of pine oil in it will make those bugs leave the apartment and go elsewhere. Breath O' Pine was my cleaner of choice because it had 25% pine oil in it at that time. I'd fill spray bottles with it. No diluting it with water either. I used it "straight" from the bottle. It was wonderful as a bug killer. I'd zap every roach I found. It killed them fast. I'd spray the inside of all cabinets, drawers, the doorways, windowsills, all name it, I sprayed it. I'd clean and then rinse countertops, then spray them lightly again before I went to bed so a thin film would dry and remain on them all night long. Needless to say, I eventually had what I think was the only bug-free home in our town. The true test for me was when no bugs were seen when the light was turned on during the night. Cockroaches HATE the smell of pine oil. Made my home smell like a forest so I loved the way it smelled. The scent went well with "flowery" air fresheners too. If you can find pine oil where you are, buy some for your SIL and DD. Breath O'Pine now only has 9% pine oil in it, but that's still more than what other cleaners which purport to be "pine" have. I think you can buy Breath O' Pine online. Hope this post helps.

MamaCaz Tue 24-Jul-18 14:59:26

I wish I had known that when I lived in Spain! smile

blue60 Tue 24-Jul-18 15:37:22

No you're not over reacting - I would be the same. They should report it to the landlord/council really as they spread disease and can trigger allergies like asthma.

They should nip it in the bud now before it becomes a bigger problem.

TLVgran48 Tue 24-Jul-18 15:52:58

You're absolutely right and reasonable, and if possible you should, as suggested, stay elsewhere and get the place fumigated. I live in a hot country where cockroaches are part of the great tapestry of life. It's not enough to whack the ones that appear, the problem is that they have already laid eggs in shady corners and only a good fumigation will nix them.

Cindy8 Tue 24-Jul-18 16:56:59

Im sorry but if i were the mother of the baby i would of contacted childrens services, bcos if they would of seen it they would of gotten the baby and mother out of there in a flash even if it was temporary till it was fumigated.

Caro57 Tue 24-Jul-18 17:49:56

It might also be worth checking with Environmental Health re the clean up.

Barmeyoldbat Tue 24-Jul-18 17:59:29

OMG these pest bring back horrible memories from when I was a child living in Singapore. The boys at school use to take great delight, as boys do, of dropping one down the back of our dress and then trying to quash it with a thump on the back. Also standing in the kitchen in my nightie
with my sisters, watching dad use the flit gun on the inside drain and swarms of them came out running all over our feet. We were screaming and climbing onto the kitchen table with my dad shouting at us not to be so b........y stupid. Ugh, I couldn't stay.

Greyduster Tue 24-Jul-18 23:21:21

barmyoldbat DH used to hit them with his Army boot and they still got up and ran! Big beggars they were too!

Fennel Thu 26-Jul-18 10:03:33

Marilii and Barmey old bat and Greyduster-
I had the same experience in Singapore - opened the undersink cupboard and these huge creatures came running ou. Towards my feet shock
I can't remember what we did about it, except that there was some special shelf paper you could buy to deter the various bugs. Ants were bad too.

MamaCaz Thu 26-Jul-18 11:48:42

Ants? That has reminded me: After the cockroach greeting party that met us when we opened the door of our infested rental late in the evening, we killed as many as we could then headed for our favourite bar for a strong drink, leaving the 'bodies' there to deal with when we got back. Only they had gone when we got back!

Discussing this later with friends, their response was 'Oh, that will be the ants that have taken them'! Of course, our immediate thought was along the lines of, 'Bloody hell, you mean we are infested with ants too?'

To be honest, we later dismissed that theory, as we never saw a single ant in all the time we lived there. My guess is that cockroaches have cannibalistic tendencies.