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My husband says I’m a tight wad!

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Mamissimo Mon 06-Aug-18 12:37:02

I am lucky enough to be able to afford to have my haircut by a partner at the local award winning salon. They charge London prices and I go every 7 weeks for a cut which takes about an hour. As my stylist is a partner I don’t tip - am I being unreasonable?

FlexibleFriend Mon 06-Aug-18 12:40:49

I have mine cut by the owner of the salon, she's great and if she doesn't get it right she does it again for free. Of course I tip her. I'm tipping the service not her position in the company.

rubytut Mon 06-Aug-18 12:54:49

I do not tip when it is the owner of the salon as I dont feel they count it as part of their income the way the staff do. My daughter does not tip anyone, she says they get paid to do a job which they should do well regardless, supermarket workers,often on minimum wage, can be pleasant and helpful or quite surly but you wouldnt tip the good ones.Although I agree with her I would be too embarrassed not to tip.

harrigran Mon 06-Aug-18 13:08:53

My hairdresser is self employed and travels to my home, I tip her usually about a third of the cost so about 33%. A good hairdresser is worth every penny.

GrannyGravy13 Mon 06-Aug-18 13:46:08

Always tip hairdresser, if you find a good one, you need to keep them!!!

Mamissimo Mon 06-Aug-18 13:55:58

Crikey Harrigran if I did that I’d be paying her twice the living wage in addition to the cost of the cut!

Bridgeit Mon 06-Aug-18 14:01:39

I find the whole hairdressing tipping thing a nightmare, how much, where & when. It seems a bit outdated, after all it costs quite a bit these days. I would like to think that they all now get a decent wage, they certainly deserve it.

Largolass Mon 06-Aug-18 14:22:03

My hairstylist is a partner in the salon and I only tip her at Christmas as they know how to charge....

Bluegal Mon 06-Aug-18 14:29:58

I used to tip but no more. I think I pay more than enough and sorry if the staff don’t feel they benefit but up to them to take it up with employers. Sometimes if an apprentice washes my hair I will give them a couple of quid but not the stylists and certainly not the owners. I never get tips - not allowed to take them anyway 😩.

Jalima1108 Mon 06-Aug-18 14:32:36

I used to but now I just tip the girl who shampoos my hair and give her the extra - juniors don't earn much.
I don't tip the hairdresser (they are all partners in the business).

ContraryMary88 Mon 06-Aug-18 14:35:39

Thank goodness my new hairdresser is employed and does everything. In my previous hairdressers I tipped the self employed stylist, the colourist and the girl who washed my hair, it cost me a fortune. I think that as she does everything my new hairdresser deserves what I give her (5%).

Bellanonna Mon 06-Aug-18 15:05:38

I always understood that the owner/partner should not be tipped. Employees should.

janeainsworth Mon 06-Aug-18 15:34:04

if I did that I’d be paying her twice the living wage in addition to the cost of the cut!
mamissimo you can’t compare what you pay a self employed person with what the government thinks is a ‘living wage’.
You are paying not just your hairdresser’s income, but also her overheads such as cost of premises, materials, business rates, as well as her holiday pay and her sick pay.
So yes, I agree with your DH.
Ideas about not tipping the owner are old fashioned in my view. If you enjoy the service she provides and she cuts your hair well, why not reward her?

sodapop Mon 06-Aug-18 16:05:48

The tipping issue again, why is it always hairdressers that are the problem.? Seems people are worried they will get a bad service if they don't tip.
Archaic practice, don't tip anyone unless they do something over and above the call of duty.

Melanieeastanglia Mon 06-Aug-18 16:33:31

My hairdresser is not a partner/owner so I do tip her.

Would I tip the owner/partner? I've never thought about it until now. Possibly not but it might depend on the size of the salon.

Mamissimo Mon 06-Aug-18 17:32:11

The salon employs all its staff and a cut done by a partner is £55. As they employ everyone in the business the costs are part of the cost of the cut. As my stylist gets a share of the profits of the three salons in the group I can’t help thinking that it’s a full business model and that’s why I don’t tip. It’s such a grey area - like my hair!

NonnaW Mon 06-Aug-18 17:38:53

I never tip my hairdresser and I have never seen any difference in the way she cuts my hair

Riggie Mon 06-Aug-18 17:44:29

My late Mum always told me that you don't tip the hairdresser if they are the salon owner, but the junior who does the shampooing - if there is one - should be given something.

Marmight Mon 06-Aug-18 17:49:31

I always feel a bit squirmy when tipping whether it be a taxi driver, hairdresser or restaurant. Often I don't have enough loose change, only notes which seems rather excessive. There's not always the opportunity to add on when paying by card so often I slink away without giving anything. You can hardly hand over a tenner & ask for change can you hmm

Cherrytree59 Mon 06-Aug-18 18:35:09

No
She is probably on got quite a good income, maybe even more than you.
She is providing a service, as does a bus driver who doesn't get a tip.

I hated it when my grandmother insisted on tipping her hairdresser who owned the business and had lovely big house and car

What bugged me even more was the fact that she accepted the money from an old lady who didn't own a house or car and only had a small pension. sad

Cherrytree59 Mon 06-Aug-18 18:41:32

Marmite
Agree card is probably the answer if you feel uncomfortable.
You would expect change in a shop. The assistant is probably on minimum wage.

If I get coppers or 5ps in change then I usually put in the charity box by the till.

Cherrytree59 Mon 06-Aug-18 18:42:45

Sorry Marmightsmile

lemongrove Mon 06-Aug-18 20:02:51

I have mine cut now by the salon owner, no I don’t tip, she is doing well with her business.Before that I always used to tip( in another salon) to the hairdressers who worked there.
Owners are making plenty of money and I doubt they expect it.

Iam64 Mon 06-Aug-18 20:18:11

The salon owner cuts my hair. I always add an amount to 'go in the tea fund'. I don't mind if she keeps it for herself or shares it with the rest of the team. She works very hard, is not yet 30 and has managed to get her own salon - I wish her well

sodapop Mon 06-Aug-18 20:40:23

My granddaughter works very hard with two jobs in order to buy a house Iam64 nobody tips her or people in similar jobs.