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Hildagard Sat 24-Nov-18 16:22:53

Why oh why do we try to please everyone, why can’t I say ...... sort yourselves out! When I met my DH I thought that his large family was like the Waltons! Everyone getting on with everyone else but.....22years down the line talk about undercurrents Feeling very fed up on a cold dark November day. And as for Christmas........ feel so much better just putting this in writing, sorry for the moans. Is it too early for a small G and T , no I don’t think so. Cheers to anyone that reads this.?

GabriellaG54 Fri 14-Dec-18 18:00:17

Me too mabon1 but I'm not keen on announcing it as it seems smug.
We have had the odd disagreement when I refuse alcohol (teetotal) 'that's not normal' apparently confused
or they serve meat knowing that I'm a vegetarian hmm but I never argue about it.
We don't discuss sex, religion or politics either. I like a pleasant life.

Jalima1108 Fri 14-Dec-18 18:28:10

mabon and Gabriella
perhaps people only post if they have problems!!

Hildegard I think large families may have occasional upsets - but I hope that the ones in your extended family get resolved quickly!

Just smile, don't comment and rise above it all - and have a G&T smile

GabriellaG54 Fri 14-Dec-18 21:31:07


Of course
That goes without saying.
I was agreeing with mabon1, not announcing the fact that I have no problems.

GabriellaG54 Fri 14-Dec-18 21:37:57

I go racing at Kempton on Boxing Day if I can. Always a fabulous atmosphere. grin?

Lesleyann9 Sat 15-Dec-18 00:23:05

This happened to a friend of mine I met at a carers group. See if you can have a quiet word with GP if this behaviour is out of character for him or if there are other behavioural changes you have noticed. That can’t be easy for you

Pudding123 Sat 15-Dec-18 09:00:16

Thanks Lesleyann9., No this isn't new.behaviour unfortunately he does this to everyone who he considers has displeased him or his poor mother who brought him up as a single parent when he was born 67 years ago ,work colleague s our daughter now me.He always goes out for a drink on Friday night came in last night and broke the milk shelf in my fridge and woke me up at 1.30 this morning to tell me.I am 64 so get civil servants pension but no state pension until 2020 so can't afford to live on my own but .any suggestions

EllanVannin Sat 15-Dec-18 10:36:47

It sounds as though you'll have to stick with it Pudding----better the devil and all that.
It's a miserable existence for both of you but the man sounds depressed to me and men aren't known for visiting GP's especially concerning problems of the mind.
Some sort of counsellor/adviser for yourself perhaps to help you continue to deal with the situation being as you can't just up sticks and move on ?

Grammaretto Sat 15-Dec-18 14:47:26

That sounds horrible for you Pudding. Are you able to talk to him about his behaviour?

Families do seem to get stressed around Christmas time. Just when you think it's all going well something happens to disturb the peace.

Nobody sets out to be difficult but there are health and work worries in our family putting a damper on things this year. I remember spending most of Christmas day at A&E one year with a very unwell teenager and we were not alone by any means.

I'll join you for a G&T!!

Nannylovesshopping Sat 15-Dec-18 16:06:23

Just joined youhildagard in a very large gin and tonic?