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Am I being lied to?

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DewAtDawn Mon 26-Nov-18 01:47:09

My son's gf has opened a bank account at my elderly mother's address, without her knowledge. Neither of them live there but did stay there for a few days before moving abroad. She expected the debit card to arrive while they were there and no-one would have known anything about it. Fortunately it arrived when they had left.

I refused to forward the card and told her to close the account, she told me she couldn't close the account without first activating the debit card and would I post it to her. I didn't believe this so told her I had cut the card up and put it in the bin.

She is now asking me if she can re-order the card. Does anyone know if you need to have the debit card to close a bank account?

We don't know this girl very well but what we do know isn't good and there is a bit more background that I won't go into right now.

notanan2 Wed 28-Nov-18 20:39:30

Yes. You've got it wrong, or rather you read it wrong.

I said she can print off her OWN online copies as proof of address even if the OP is destroying the originals, and use them ad proof of address to obtain other things.

endre123 Fri 30-Nov-18 15:05:36

Don't take the risk, there are so many scams happening to the elderly these days and this might be something you and your family wish you had done something about.

You don't have to be mentally incapacitated to be scammed by criminals who think they have found an opportunity to steal money. They think OAPs have money they need and aim to transfer it to them. Sadly it is usually a family member. They are more likely to have access to details while visiting/ staying. It is awful when they pretend the OAP is forgetful and the details were given to them. Or they were given the card o shop when it's a lie.

Let the bank know the card has nothing to do with the address. Your mother will be getting all the warnings about these scams and must be very worried. Ask the GF to never do it again

blackiyto Fri 30-Nov-18 22:42:23

My gut reaction is that your mother should advise the bank that the g/f doesn’t live at her address

blackiyto Fri 30-Nov-18 22:42:55

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Chewbacca Sat 01-Dec-18 01:06:37