Reply to my post on Facebook

I think it amazing that so many people with lots and lots of so-called 'friends' on Facebook actually think these people fit the criteria of friends in the true sense of the word. Would they help if you needed it, if only to be there to message privately? Do they know all about you, or as much as your 'real' friends do, assuming you have real and virtual friends? Would they be sorry if you stopped chatting to them? Boasting about the numbers of 'friends' you have, does it make you feel good? Needless to say, I am not on Facebook!

It's fine if used sensibly - my friends on FB are good friends whom I don't see often as they live too far away and ditto with family.

Nothing wrong wth FB. Just delete your own comment and forget about it. Or perhaps post something stupid like ‘my bad’ which seems to be some sort of acknowledgement that you got it wrong wth the younger generation.

Yes its fine if used sensibly.

Forget it this time - it's happened and that's it. Maybe considering just using FB for 'liking' photos and updates, rather than engaging in conversation. I read somewhere that conversations on FB's public pages are rather like watching a play where one of the actors started a conversation with a family member in the audience - so making it public. Best avoided I think. In real life you can 'read' someone's facial expression and tone of voice so can adjust comments accordingly. Bit like Gransnet I suppose, though I think we're all aware of the pitfalls there!

Really ReadyMeals? Do not make a mountain out od a molehill!

It was probably a typical mis-read on FB!

Either OP did not 'get' what her DGS was really saying and responded too seriously, DS could have just let it go but just did an unthinking reply! Or DS did not get it and was confused by DMs reply & thought she had misread it.

Either way it really not worth a lot of thinking about or a major family fall out.

Just post a grinning emoji and move on!

What has happened is that I asked my son "why did you snub me on Facebook?" and he had not thought about his reply much at all . I doubt very much that my reply to my grandson, who is listed among my ' friends ' on FB, matters much to him in any way. My reaction seesm to have been a storm in a teacup due to my not getting out enough. Thanks to all who responded to me especially the understanding ones

Glad it is sorted Alexa

Excellent solution from PECS.
Glad it is sorted. The lesson is ‘don’t overthink things’.

Don't feel snubbed. For some reason sons in particular seem to have this idea that they are protecting you by correcting you on comments you make - I've had it happen to me several time by my own son! I usually respond by either posting an emoji of laughing , or even better, of someone sticking their tongue out ! Just carry on as normal - if you want to comment on your grandson's posts, do - it's up to him to put you straight if he doesn't want you to!

PECs I find deleting a message IS the easiest way to stop hills of any size developing.

Aw glad it’s sorted op. So your ds didn’t mean to snub you or upset you. Good outcome and don’t give it any more headspace

My daughter often does this kind of thing to me- she’ll say I’m a grumpy old woman if I say anything negative on a post. She’s been known to delete my posts if she thinks it might embarrass her mates! I know better now than to comment on any of her posts unless totally benign or very positive! I think she’d really rather we weren’t friends on FB but I like to be on it to keep up with absent family members and friends.

FluttERBY123, you described my feelings precisely and that was what was worrying me.

fluttERBY123, you described my feelings precisely , and that was what was worrying me.

I've come to the conclusion at the age of 75 that the hurt I've felt at similar snubs to this is the direct result of my own low self esteem. Now I tell them all ( mentally) to eff off. We all have friends and family who value us and would forgive us anything and those who will never " get us". Their problem, not ours.

What a lot of people confuse the medium with the message!

Facebook is only another means of communicating, like letters, postcards, greetings cards, telephones, magnetic noticeboards, music requests with loving messages, banners towed across the sky etc etc etc. Plenty of nasty messages can be sent by old-fashioned letter or said over the phone. No-one curses the telephone because someone has shouted at them over the line, or decvlares that they are never gouing to write another letter to anyone because of what was written to them.

If Facebook friends post hurtful things, it is because those friends typed in the words - Facebook itself didn't. Or perhaps they just typed in something that wasn't meant to be hurtful at all, but was misunderstood.

I have become very trigger-happy with the "block" option on facebook these days. That does wonders for the self-esteem too