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yggdrasil Sat 15-Dec-18 17:19:03

Am I alone in getting confused by all the references to DD, SiL, DGD etc? I just read a plea in another forum where I really could not work out who the poster was talking about.
It doesn't take much more work to type 'my husband' or 'my grandson' , or even 'my son-in-law's sister's daughter's child'.
But it does make the relationships obvious.

shysal Sat 15-Dec-18 17:26:59

yggdrasil, you will get used to them I am sure smile .On my laptop there is a list under 'Acronyms' above each thread. Not sure where to find them on the mobile site.

merlotgran Sat 15-Dec-18 17:31:05

Is it really that difficult to work them out? I typed H&M on another thread this afternoon instead of Harry and Meghan because it was appropriate to the thread. Nothing wrong with a bit of shorthand.

I can't see why people get confused.

BlueBelle Sat 15-Dec-18 17:34:42

You are not alone Ygg I ve said many times I hate them I have never got used to them in all the years I ve been on here I know what most of them mean but each time I read a post I have to mentally decipher it taking twice as long and don’t get me started on the ridiculous darling dears dratted or whatever it might stand for just because Mumsnet dies it
I think I m acronym dyslexic

EllanVannin Sat 15-Dec-18 17:35:19

I did Pitmans shorthand and still remember some of the alphabet. Easy when you know how smile

Chewbacca Sat 15-Dec-18 18:24:25

I've never had a problem with the acronyms; to me they're so obvious as to what they refer to. And there aren't that many of them to get your head around really.

mcem Sat 15-Dec-18 18:31:23

I say again - they are not acronyms!
Where the initials form a "new" word you have an acronym as in NATO or UNESCO.
I do wish GNHQ would change that heading to *abbreviations "!!

MissAdventure Sat 15-Dec-18 18:31:49

I'm ok with immediate family, but when it comes to SDIL and so on, then I'm lost.

Izabella Sat 15-Dec-18 18:51:59

Absolutely mcem

merlotgran Sat 15-Dec-18 18:56:17


Sodding daughter-in-law?

MissAdventure Sat 15-Dec-18 18:57:34

That's her, merlot grin

HootyMcOwlface Sat 15-Dec-18 19:08:40

I sometimes get confused too. Is SIL son in law or sister in law, is DD dear daughter or dad? Why does there have to be a D in front of it anyway, they sometimes aren’t particularly dear!

Witzend Sat 15-Dec-18 19:36:44

There's a list of acronyms somewhere, isn't there?

Many years ago, when I joined a writers' forum, I was very bemused at first by all the references to 'dh'. Who was this dh of whom they spoke? Dopey Herbert?
But eventually I worked it out.

But yes, SiL in particular can definitely be confusing. And maybe we should somehow make it clear whether it's 'dear' or 'dratted' husband, not to mention 'dopey'!
May I suggest Deh, Drh, and Doh?

Farmor15 Sat 15-Dec-18 20:11:36

Even if you just about understand the abbreviations, it can still be confusing. Assuming SiL is actually sister-in-law and not son-in-law, it could be husband’s sister or brother’s wife.
In real life, I would never refer to my “dear” (or darling) husband, daughter, son, etc, so why the need in these abbreviations. If posters do want to use them, why not simplify to H, D, S etc. but spell out other relationships in full.

MawBroon Sat 15-Dec-18 22:42:16

Forum abbreviations and acronyms
This is a list of the most commonly used acronyms used on Gransnet forums. Don't feel like you have to use them if you don't want to, but they may help you understand some of the forums better.
AIBU - Am I being unreasonable
BiL - brother-in-law
BTW - by the way
DBH - dear beloved husband
DC - darling/dear child/ren
DD - darling/dear daughter
DGS/D - darling/dear grandson/daughter
DH - darling/dear husband
DiL - daughter in law
DS - darling/dear son
Other things you might like...
Getting started on Gransnet.
Frequently asked questions.
Find out more about Gransnet.
Terms of use.
DSS/D - darling/dear stepson/daughter
DW - darling/dear wife
FiL - father-in-law
FWIW - for what it's worth
FYI - for your information
GD - granddaughter
GN - Gransnet!
GNHQ - Gransnet headquarters AKA cake-eating central.
GS - grandson
GSH - good sense of humour (not to be confused with GCH - gas central heating)
IYCWIM - If you see what I mean
LOL - laugh out loud
MiL - mother-in-law
OG - old git
OH - other half
OTT - over the top
PiL - parents-in-law
PM - private message
SiL - sister-in-law
SO - significant other
TBH - to be honest

Chewbacca Sun 16-Dec-18 00:28:01

A few more:

RTFT - Read the full thread
HTH - Hope that helps
CBA - Can't be a**ed
OP - Original post/er

notanan2 Sun 16-Dec-18 02:01:49

The tricky one is SIL because it can be son or sister in law

notnecessarilywiser Sun 16-Dec-18 08:06:39

Exactly, notanan2 - I was attempting to read a thread yesterday where the OP was referencing her son in law and someone's sister in law using the same acronym - try as I might I couldn't make head or tail of it. Perhaps that's what prompted yggdrasil to create this thread?

sodapop Sun 16-Dec-18 08:46:05

I agree notnecessarily when I see a post full of these abbreviations I just lose the will to carry on reading. Wtfcyjwtw - why the f***can't you just write the word !!
Perhaps it's a sign of being in the GN 'club' when you use the code.

Billybob4491 Sun 16-Dec-18 08:57:53

Its when folk start talking about their step in-laws twice removed that it gets confusing.

AlieOxon Sun 16-Dec-18 08:57:54

They do it on the News too....

DanniRae Sun 16-Dec-18 09:03:02

I don't like them either but don't think it's ever going to I always type out everything in full and at least people can read my posts easily!! wink

Brunette10 Sun 16-Dec-18 09:09:40

EllanVannin - also did Pitmans shorthand many, many years ago and still remember short forms etc. Oh the days!

Missfoodlove Sun 16-Dec-18 10:52:27

I just don’t use them! I would never refer to Mr P as “ darling or dear husband”.

BlueBelle Sun 16-Dec-18 11:24:10

I don’t need MawBoons list ?I m intelligent enough to work most of them out but I think like some people don’t have an ear for languages or even music I don’t automatically read a post littered with abbreviations and understand it It muddles me, I have to go back and read it again saying the full word in my head to get the gist

I think it’s sloppy in an age when we go on about teens and their text speak and frankly a bit hypercritical

I think the darling, dreary, difficult stuff is awful who in this day and age constantly refers to their darling husband or darling daughter if it’s copied off Mumsnet let them keep it aren’t we able to be individual in our thinking

Anyway rant well and truely over I will continue writing the full word and thoroughly appreciate the posts that do so too and avoid some of the long threads littered with DD s and DSs and leave those for you clever people who read them easily