I've had enough of hosting ungrateful guests.

mmmmm been on the grape juice I think?

No, barely. She has been awake but prefers lounging in bed! We are not big drinkers,

What does your partner say?

Think it would be the last invitation unless there was a change of attitude from your step daughter. You need to have a frank conversation with your husband.

No much at all. She has always been spoilt by her Dad. He did tell her off but its generally lighthearted and it goes in one ear and out of the other. My daughter is 20 and she was as outraged as me. She was here last year as well and carried on the same way. Her older sister was here and she is completely different.

I intend to speak to him. Ive always been the one wanting Christmas at home, he would happily go away on holiday and I have always said no. I told him I am not doing it anymore and he said good. I know he does it more for his GC so they have a good Christmas

I'd say that's absolutely unacceptable behaviour in someone else's house. You've done well not to blow up over it!
It's not worth causing a family fight over, but just never invite them again.

I would rather bite my tongue (hence the name) because all hell will break loose. I would disinvite them but they invite themselves. So next year I won't be here! And I don't think I'll be unreasonable doing so.

She's in her 30s? She sounds like a petulant teenager. She didn't get up until 3pm - the lazy cow.

If it were me, I'd be on holiday every Christmas.

so you made up a name to go alongside your story? Interesting concept.

so if I talk about wanting to see my Grandkids more, I would call myself Moreykiddytime?

Oldbatty. I wanted to post so needed to register. It was obviously on my mind!

Oldbatty. And Biting my tongue is something that I am learning to do as I get older. I can be quite outspoken, I'm learning to chose my battles

@lynne59. It looks very likely from now on or I will be visiting family in the UK

How discourteous I wouldnt have them back again please or offend.

Don’t let her spoil future Christmas days. Just spend it with those you love and invite her on Boxng Day for one night only.

@Anja I won't be doing it again next year. It's such a shame that people cannot see how awful their behaviour is.

@Teetime I will be avoiding it at all costs

Bitemytongue Be sure not to bite too hard.
Life is so problematic.
Look on the bright side, at least you didn’t have 4 dogs chasing the cat around the house all day, nearly knocking over the Christmas tree.

You won't change her now; she is in her mid thirties with two children, and her father condones her awful behaviour, so why should she change?
On the plus side, I should think you made Christmas for the nine-year old, because his mother and sister clearly weren't interested.
Is it worth a family row? Your husband is the one who has to take action. Do sympathise, horrid situation.

I would invite other guest next year so no room for lazy ones. I would invite young child though or what Xmas will he get else? Your step d sounds horrid to just leave her young child to own devices on Xmas day.

I'd have left any mess she made, however awful and inconvenient, and told her father to clear it up and I would have left it there no matter how long it took for him to clear it.

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What a lazy entitled madam your partner’s daughter is.

You’re being ultra civil and composed to hold your tongue. I don’t think I’d be prepared to. It’s a bit disappointing of your partner too to tolerate this ungracious and self centred behaviour from his user of a daughter. She came empty handed too. What a rogue she sounds.

Maybe let your partner see this thread and good on you for alternative plans next year.

Wishing you a joyous new year!