Men at the sales

When in a well known clothes/ food store yesterday I couldn’t help noticing quite a few very bored looking men just standing ,or sitting when possible,waiting for their wives/ partners to finish browsing around the clothes sale. Why don’t they just stay at home ,or somewhere so they can avoid the boredom and their other halves can shop without having to bother about them.
My late husband rarely went shopping with me and I can’t say that I would have wanted him to -apart from maybe a second opinion on some item I was thinking of buying.

Perhaps the men are at the sales to ensure their wives don't spend too much.

We shop a lot together now and split the driving but for clothes shopping I go on my own, I like to browse, he has a shopping list and wants to get on with it, we do need a tea or coffee whatever happens. Everyday bits and pieces are done by whoever fancies a walk.

One year I was was clothes shopping with DH and whilst he sat on a chair in the shop I went into a changing room to try on a few items. I decided not to buy anything and promptly strolled out of the shop forgetting he was sat waiting for me. Not long after the staff were asking him to leave as they were closing and he said 'my wife is still in the changing room' they assured him I wasn't and he left a little red-faced. So, as you can imagine he does not come clothes shopping with me anymore - says I'm to distracted

Grumpa, I love your post too.
Personally I like to shop on my own, if we do go together we split up and meet now and then, maybe for advice on something or for a cup of tea, or a G and T.
In a huge supermarket DH goes off with the trolley too and with my arms full, I have to fish my phone out and ring to ask where he is, it never fails, however I now take a little basket and fill the trolley from that.
Grumpa I hope you know we all love you.

I am happy to hear anyone's opinion grandtante but reserve the right to comment on it.

Dear gentlemen, I don't think you were patronising, Grumppa, and Granddad, it sometimes seems to me too, that whatever any man says on some of these threads is automatically wrong.

However, lots of other ladies are, like me, only too happy to hear a man's opinion.

lemongrove, I very often go to the Supermarket with my wife as we both work in the business and therefore try to coordinate our going home together.

On the way home, we normally go in the Supermarket where I am always being accused of putting things in the trolley or basket that we do not need.

The above usually comes with the comment " when do you think we are going to eat that".

The way to do it....is to leave the husband at home ( after setting him a few household chores to complete) or pottering in the garden, while you go out clothes shopping by yourself or with a DD or a friend.
In Sainsburys/ Waitrose/Tesco etc if he really must insist on accomanying you, park him in the cafe with a newspaper and coffee until you are done.Result, harmony all round.

Am I the only person who had to google "misandry"?
Probably "Yes" There's a lot of it about and it's highly contagious! The antidote is called "mysogynist". A recent Aussie female PM was fond of spraying that around! "Patroniser" is also common GNspeak!

Carol my wife and I usually go shopping together. If we are going on a weekend for clothes etc, we generally split up at the shopping centre and set a time and place to meet up, say, in an hour or so.

I love Technology shops such as Currys or phone outlets, so a quick go round in Asda/George where I always find the clothes in like and then down to Currys, lovely.

The above always speeds Carol up with her clothes shopping as being aware that I will be in Currys or similar shop she quickly gets going afraid she will catch up with me just as I am coming out of the technology shop with a £6000 television or suchlike.

That's the way to do it.

I’m married to a man who loves to shop too, Paddyann! I, on the other hand really don’t enjoy it especially clothes shopping. I’m 5 foot nothing, in need of loosing some weight and in my late 60’s. My OH, bless him, still sees me as a bright young thing and fails to understand my reluctance to try on the clothes he thinks would suit me. There have been times when I’ve actually bought something that I haven’t really liked just to get out of a shop. He has never sought my advice as to what he should wear and is at his happiest shopping for clothes for himself. To be honest he has very good taste when it comes to his own clothes.

Some women do want their partners with them and most men just don't want to be there. Unfair to inflict it on them. Tbh I hate sales. I tried yesterday and after buying 3 items was about to get a bargain ( something priced lower than it should have been) and said don't worry about it as I just couldn't wait for them to cancel and redo. I sat outside recovering and a man with lots of parcels sat down beside and said they'd almost made it back to the car but his wife had spied another sale. How does ANYONE think sales are fun? I'd rather do without or pay full price. Never again. Noisy crowded shops playing rap or any other modern music is not my idea of fun. No thank you.

My OH loves shopping he's always dragging things off the rails and telling me I'd look "great in this" .He is very fashion conscious and always well dressed himself .Sadly he still sees me as the 20 year old he married .....instead of a 64 year old gran of 4.So some of his suggestions are a bit off the wall.He certainly never trails behind me or looks bored and I imagine he cant be the ONLY man in the world who does like shopping so please dont generalise .

Nothing patronising at all. Just a humorous dig ?

I try to avoid shopping with MrA and I don’t usually bother with the sales.
But this morning we found ourselves in the Rohan shop in Newcastle where I went to try on some trousers and a dress I’d had my eye on and which were reduced.
I bought them both, accompanied by lots of sighing and eye-rolling and ‘do you really need those?’
It will be a while before we shop together again.
Oh and I carried my solitary bag back to the car myself

Never ever ever shop with DH!!

I doubt the marriage would survive!

Well said grannyticktock totally agree if I was unable to carry my bags then I'd buy a shopping trolley the men never seem to be enjoying their experience whilst they trot along behind there wives or stand looking bewildered blocking the aisles

I must admit, I find the men that seem to be attached to their wives by an invisible thread, very annoying, and it seems that they daren't let more than six inches of space come between themselves, so they then trample and bash into anyone who dares to get in their way. Or perhaps it's just where we live! On the other hand, I've seen so many men at the mercy of a woman determined to, well just shop, and the poor chap is constantly berated for just about anything.

How I wish my husband soon to be Ex ..came shopping with me even once ..willingly. not so much the bag carrying just the companionship.

But, Juneski and Urmistongran, that is one word you won't have to look up again (assuming the meaning hasn't escaped by the next time you hear/see it)

Very good point Grampie I ever thought of purchasesthat way. I’m a ‘buyer’ then!

That was only one lady, shortlegs, the rest were quite happy with Grumpa's post.

In fact, posters were laughing affectionately with their men, not abusively at them, rather like commenting that the wife has taken an hour to get ready to go out while the husband only had to comb his hair and pick up the car keys. The husband still loves his wife and is proud of how she looks once she has finished, the wife still loves her husband.

No juneski❗️ Me too - without a hashtag of course.

Am I the only person who had to google "misandry"?