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Dirty trick?

(88 Posts)
notanan2 Mon 01-Apr-19 17:42:23

Why wait until tomorrow?

I would contact her today, as her whether she is going to chose your house or your friendship so you know where you stand.

Some people are just not very bright rather than overtly nasty. Social norms dont come naturally to everyone. Spell it out to her now before it is too late. If she then choses the house anyway there will be no doubting her motives later, she wont be able to crawl back claiming missunderstandings.

Or she might just not get it. And chose you.
.SPEAK to her. Today.

Framilode Mon 01-Apr-19 17:34:45

Thanks everyone for the replies so far and I'm glad to know you don't think I am being unreasonable to be upset by this. I should know tomorrow what is going to happen and will keep you up to date.

The thought of going to stay with her in May at what should have been our house is unbearable.

Ginny42 Mon 01-Apr-19 17:16:22

Yes, it's a very dirty trick and would you want a place on the same small complex as someone who would do that anyway? She might be thinking you'll buy another one there. I'd say the friendship is doomed.

Nico97 Mon 01-Apr-19 16:52:59

Before the matter goes any further just lay your cards on the table and tell her that if she pursues then any friendship between you is well and truly over. A good friend wouldn't ever let this situation arise, so you're well within your rights to tell her (very nicely) to back off !

BradfordLass72 Mon 01-Apr-19 16:52:25

I'd cancel the deal and the friendship - when someone goes behind your back to take away your dream, how can you ever trust them again.

M0nica Mon 01-Apr-19 16:47:54

That is not my definition of friendship. Find another place to buy a holiday home and Do not tell her until she has completed her purchase, even if she is back to buying the house she originally wanted.

KatyK Mon 01-Apr-19 16:44:50

How spiteful and selfish.

leyla Mon 01-Apr-19 16:38:00

You need to spell it out to her that if she does that, the friendship is over...I would be tempted to say that she has already seriously upset you.

Kittye Mon 01-Apr-19 16:32:41

A good friend?? I think not !?

Nonnie Mon 01-Apr-19 16:31:42

Ask her why

kittylester Mon 01-Apr-19 16:17:53

That stinks.

crazyH Mon 01-Apr-19 16:03:47

That's not nice ?....dump her

Framilode Mon 01-Apr-19 15:57:26

We are just at the start of the process of buying a holiday home in Spain. A very good friend is also buying one on the same small complex and is due to complete on Wednesday.

Out of courtesy, and because I thought she would be pleased, I told her that we are also buying. She has either been told or found out the particular house we want and now wants to have ours instead of the original one she is buying. This could be done by her solicitor before she goes to the notary on Wednesday. The house we are buying was not available when she set off on this path. It had been sold to someone else who later pulled out.

We only want this one house and will pull out altogether if she takes it off us.

I think it is a rotten trick and a sort of gazumping. We have always been there for her and helped her a lot both practically and emotionally over the years.

AIBU to think she is behaving badly? I am due to go and stay with her next month but will cancel the trip and also our friendship if she does this.

What do others think?